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Just as every guy has a few creepy or arrogant girl stories!
I told this story before and was suitably chastised by some of the female members of tam. 😃
When I was younger I called to collect a date at her house. She told me she wasn’t ready yet but said there were some dishes in her sink and would I wash them and put them away.
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I think so. Also, women are more likely to attend church. But I’m not so much talking about a scarcity of single Christian men but a scarcity of ELIGIBLE single Christian men. That is, the ones on the market aren’t worth having because they aren’t worldly wise, awkward, etc.
Read Dalrock's posts on finding a spouse (https://dalrock.wordpress.com/catego...ding-a-spouse/).
Warning: this will probably be extremely depressing.

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I think so. Also, women are more likely to attend church. But I’m not so much talking about a scarcity of single Christian men but a scarcity of ELIGIBLE single Christian men. That is, the ones on the market aren’t worth having because they aren’t worldly wise, awkward, etc.
Read Dalrock's posts on finding a spouse (https://dalrock.wordpress.com/catego...ding-a-spouse/).
Warning: this will probably be extremely depressing.
“For as long as I can remember, I dreamed of having a large family. Five, six, seven, eight children — it didn’t matter; I was prepared to take as many children as God sent me. There was just one problem: My 20s came and went without God sending me a husband.

“Another decade passed, and with my single status unchanged, reality set in. There would be no eight babies. Nor would there be five babies.“

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“For as long as I can remember, I dreamed of having a large family. Five, six, seven, eight children — it didn’t matter; I was prepared to take as many children as God sent me. There was just one problem: My 20s came and went without God sending me a husband.

“Another decade passed, and with my single status unchanged, reality set in. There would be no eight babies. Nor would there be five babies.“

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I strongly feel that 8 kids is too much for any family. Maybe God was afraid of that.
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I strongly feel that 8 kids is too much for any family. Maybe God was afraid of that.
You know something @NextTimeAround with that sentence you summed up what really pisses me off about religion and it’s practictioners.
(This is not a personal attack, just a general comment.)
Every time that something happens that’s good you are supposed to thank God.
When something doesn’t happen you get the platitudes “God didn’t think you needed that” or “God answered your prayers but you haven’t seen it yet”.
And when something really terrible happens to you you get told “God moves in mysterious ways “ or my own personal favorite when someone dies too young “God only takes the best”.
In life you can either make things happen or wait for things to happen. And that’s it.
There’s a story about a man buying a house that had been abandoned for a number of years. The garden in particular was in a dreadful state. The man worked long and hard for months and eventually he had a garden to be proud of.
One evening he was cutting the grass when the local padre passed by. He said “Between yourself and the Lord you’ve done a great job on this garden”.
The man replied “You should have seen it when the Lord had it on his own”.
That woman in your story sat back and waited for a suitable man to come knocking at her door.
She should have looked for him herself.

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I strongly feel that 8 kids is too much for any family. Maybe God was afraid of that.
Children are called a blessing.
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I strongly feel that 8 kids is too much for any family. Maybe God was afraid of that.
Children are called a blessing.
Exactly. I cannot imagine having a children, but I am not arrogant enough to assume it's my place to decide how many children other people should have.
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I strongly feel that 8 kids is too much for any family. Maybe God was afraid of that.
You know something @NextTimeAround with that sentence you summed up what really pisses me off about religion and it’s practictioners.
(This is not a personal attack, just a general comment.)
Every time that something happens that’s good you are supposed to thank God.
When something doesn’t happen you get the platitudes “God didn’t think you needed that” or “God answered your prayers but you haven’t seen it yet”.
And when something really terrible happens to you you get told “God moves in mysterious ways “ or my own personal favorite when someone dies too young “God only takes the best”.
In life you can either make things happen or wait for things to happen. And that’s it.
There’s a story about a man buying a house that had been abandoned for a number of years. The garden in particular was in a dreadful state. The man worked long and hard for months and eventually he had a garden to be proud of.
One evening he was cutting the grass when the local padre passed by. He said “Between yourself and the Lord you’ve done a great job on this garden”.
The man replied “You should have seen it when the Lord had it on his own”.
That woman in your story sat back and waited for a suitable man to come knocking at her door.
She should have looked for him herself.
Why does this piece you off? How does this affect you at all the? Would you rather people become bitter and pathetic every time something that happens instead of trying to find the way it can work for good? I find that pretty sad.
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The ideal number of children depends on the parents' ability to care for them. Personally, I believe that if you have to turn over the care for a baby to other children because you're too busy getting busy making the next one then you have too many children (yeah, Mrs. Duggar, I'm talking to you).


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Why does this piece you off? How does this affect you at all the? Would you rather people become bitter and pathetic every time something that happens instead of trying to find the way it can work for good? I find that pretty sad.
Are you saying that people who claim to be religious are just using it as a prop to cope with every day problems? Rather than face their problems head on and try and do something about it?
Why not just pop a pill every night before bed and wake up the next morning having forgotten every bad thing that happened the previous day.
You think I’m sad?
You couldn’t be more wrong.

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You know something @NextTimeAround with that sentence you summed up what really pisses me off about religion and it’s practictioners.
(This is not a personal attack, just a general comment.)
Every time that something happens that’s good you are supposed to thank God.
When something doesn’t happen you get the platitudes “God didn’t think you needed that” or “God answered your prayers but you haven’t seen it yet”.
And when something really terrible happens to you you get told “God moves in mysterious ways “ or my own personal favorite when someone dies too young “God only takes the best”.
In life you can either make things happen or wait for things to happen. And that’s it.
There’s a story about a man buying a house that had been abandoned for a number of years. The garden in particular was in a dreadful state. The man worked long and hard for months and eventually he had a garden to be proud of.
One evening he was cutting the grass when the local padre passed by. He said “Between yourself and the Lord you’ve done a great job on this garden”.
The man replied “You should have seen it when the Lord had it on his own”.
That woman in your story sat back and waited for a suitable man to come knocking at her door.
She should have looked for him herself.
Well, it does say God helps those who help themselves. So that part is clearly covered. What you are describing is coping mechanisms, and people giving thanks for what they have in life. /shrug

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The ideal number of children depends on the parents' ability to care for them. Personally, I believe that if you have to turn over the care for a baby to other children because you're too busy getting busy making the next one then you have too many children (yeah, Mrs. Duggar, I'm talking to you).
A fellow I work with has 11 children. It's true, having older children to help care for the younger children certainly helps the mother, but I'm not so sure the motivation for having the older children was to make having the younger children easier. Seems convoluted to me. They decided to ride the wave of childbearing and see where it goes. God bless them!

The daughters have a huge head start when it comes to having their own children, win-win.
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Well, it does say God helps those who help themselves.
lol, actually it doesn't!

Cleanliness is next to Godliness is also not there, haha
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Well, it does say God helps those who help themselves.
lol, actually it doesn't!

Cleanliness is next to Godliness is also not there, haha
Neither is "God won't give you more than you can handle"
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