Re: Do men see us as whole beings or just carriers of a particular body part.
This is a non issue annoyance. Of course that isn't all he is to you. Sometimes I'm a big ass for seemingly no reason. My wife can be a big B sometimes when she's on her period. At least you and I know the timing. Chalk that up as a win. The reason he's grumpy is because he enjoys sex with his wife so much it bums him out when, as we say here, "Mrs *****cat is on vacation," and he gets irritable as a result. That's another win, believe me.
Maybe he can be less of a jerk, but meh, you probably got things you do he's not that thrilled about but he still loves you and not just because what is between your legs. Otherwise he wouldn't have bothered with all the legal consequences and expenses to lock you down, not to mention all the compromises he's surely made along the way. No offense to the ladies but ain't no poon that good.
If my devils are to leave me, I'm afraid my angels will take flight as well.