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post #16 of 71 (permalink) Old 08-05-2019, 04:24 PM
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Re: Do men see us as whole beings or just carriers of a particular body part.

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That is so sad to know. What if we started seeing men as carriers of a body party. How sad would that be?
There are people who are just wrong in this world, that includes both men and women. While some men might think of woman as just some body parts that serve them, there are some women who see men as simply the source of money. Both points of view are wrong.

But it does not negate that most men and most women are good people.


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And we do employ a good lot of the lot.

It is not like there is nothing.
Then your husband's got zero grounds for complaint.
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That is so sad to know. What if we started seeing men as carriers of a body party. How sad would that be?
Is your husband the only man you've ever dated? We (speaking as a man) come in a variety of types and generally selfish tendencies in the bedroom would not be the only place such a mentality plays out. On the other hand, if the only way you pleasure him is traditional penis-in-vagina, nothing else, that could be an issue too. Variety is important.
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My husband has a habit of being moody when i am on my period and we cannot do what we want to do the way we want to do.
So I asked him and he cannot explain satisfactorily.

Is he unique or is this a general case?
“Hey baby, just cuz the Ferris Wheel is broken, you don’t go shut down the whole amusement park!”

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Nothing wrong with period cunnilingus or period intercourse, IMO. If he’s a real man, that is. Often the best time for a woman as far as sensation and helping with cramps and headaches.

Funny, you have other people on TAM unsure if they can put up with a sexless marriage. He’s unable to cope with 4-5 days.

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Naw. I am my husband’s best friend, his confidant, his partner in life, his sounding board, his cheer leader, his word of caution.... I am more than a vagina to him, just like he is more than a penis to me.

Also - menstrual cups - we never have a “down” week. Clean sex any time we like.
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Re: Do men see us as whole beings or just carriers of a particular body part.

This is a non issue annoyance. Of course that isn't all he is to you. Sometimes I'm a big ass for seemingly no reason. My wife can be a big B sometimes when she's on her period. At least you and I know the timing. Chalk that up as a win. The reason he's grumpy is because he enjoys sex with his wife so much it bums him out when, as we say here, "Mrs *****cat is on vacation," and he gets irritable as a result. That's another win, believe me.

Maybe he can be less of a jerk, but meh, you probably got things you do he's not that thrilled about but he still loves you and not just because what is between your legs. Otherwise he wouldn't have bothered with all the legal consequences and expenses to lock you down, not to mention all the compromises he's surely made along the way. No offense to the ladies but ain't no poon that good.

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That is so sad to know. What if we started seeing men as carriers of a body party. How sad would that be?
Some guys might actually like that.

Can you give an example of what your husband says or does that is moody?
How does he treat your or act differently?
Have you said anything to him? Do you think you can/will?
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Re: Do men see us as whole beings or just carriers of a particular body part.

I have met very few men who truly only care about that one body part. Most of the men I know in my life are well rounded individuals who love their wives or girlfriends for the whole picture, not just sex. As one guy has said to me on more than one occasion..."sex is great, but you need a woman you still want to be around for the rest of the day."

It sounds like your husband really enjoys PIV sex with you and that's great. But he does a poor job of dealing with his disappointment when that's off the table for a few days. Tell him to grow up a little bit...it's not like you can help it.

On the other hand, there are millions of women out there who would kill for a guy that wants them as much as your husband seems to want you...you could try looking at it that way as well, it might soften the annoyance a bit.
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Nothing wrong with period cunnilingus or period intercourse, IMO. If he’s a real man, that is.
Damn. I've given away so many of my man cards over the years. Where do I turn this one in?

Guess I'll have to do that yard work and oil change tomorrow after all. My stockpile is running low.

If my devils are to leave me, I'm afraid my angels will take flight as well.
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Damn. I've given away so many of my man cards over the years. Where do I turn this one in?

Guess I'll have to do that yard work and oil change tomorrow after all. My stockpile is running low.
I was never averse to period intercourse. The shower works fine.

But period cunnilingus? Nope. Not that I mind a little blood... but it's not just blood mind you. And the smell at that point is decidedly unsexy. I can wait.

And in the end, I could even wait on the intercourse. Although I had no aversion, and even though my wife was willing, I knew it wasn't her preference, so you know what? I can wait a few days once a month. Even as a serious HD, I can't see that being too much of a sacrifice. And getting a HJ once in a while instead of PIV ain't too shabby either.

Yeah, if that pulls my man card, then so be it. Maybe I'll spend an extra hour in the gym to compensate.

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My husband has a habit of being moody when i am on my period and we cannot do what we want to do the way we want to do.
So I asked him and he cannot explain satisfactorily.

Is he unique or is this a general case?
I think you meant to ask, "is he a selfish ass-hole who thinks with his d*ck?"

The answer is yes.

I mean come on, what is he? 16 years old?

Once you start seeing your worth, you'll find it harder to stay around people who don't.
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That is so sad to know. What if we started seeing men as carriers of a body party. How sad would that be?
Openminded suggested you enlighten your selfish husband about his nasty attitude and you completely deflected that and instead you asked a silly rhetorical question about how it would be if women acted this way.

The truth is, if you refuse to respect yourself, then why on earth would you expect cro-magnon man to respect you?

Once you start seeing your worth, you'll find it harder to stay around people who don't.
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MaiChi, from your posts and threads you seem adorable, and it's obvious you love your husband and that he loves you.

So, there's a wrinkle in the relationship during your period, this can happen.

It wasn't lost on me when you said he gets pouty when ''we can't do things the way we want to''

That is a beautiful, wifely attitude.

I can't offer any magic words to address the present issue, but if you go at your husband with the level of vitriol that some posters in this thread exhibit, then I suspect more damage than good will come from it.
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I can honestly say that I have never met any man who I thought only considered women a collection of parts. Maybe I have encountered a few online who give the impression they are that way. But I honestly do not actually know any man who thinks that way.
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Re: Do men see us as whole beings or just carriers of a particular body part.

There's a whole separate topic; some women wrongly use that as another excuse to postpone and put up having sex, that is out there in the ether.

But no, most men see the whole women.
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