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Do men see us as whole beings or just carriers of a particular body part.

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#1 ·
My husband has a habit of being moody when i am on my period and we cannot do what we want to do the way we want to do.
So I asked him and he cannot explain satisfactorily.

Is he unique or is this a general case?
 
#4 ·
Men are not of one hive mind. Some do, some don't.

Your issue is with your husband. Maybe he's on his period at the same time? You should offer him some Tylenol for his PMS. (sorry could not help myself >:) )

He has unrealistic expectations. Does he realize this?
 
#6 ·
Generally, I agree with the premise of your title. hahahahahah :rofl: laughing so hard at myself.

However, your husband is incredibly immature it doesn't even make sense, and you have no business tolerating that from him. Even though he sees you as carrier of a particular body part, he should be acting more grown up about your time of the month. The way he acts is the adult version of a 12 year old teasing you about your menstruation. A 12 year olf would point and tease and laugh at you. This horny ass man who can't control himself is pouting and having a temper tantrum at YOUR time of the month. Of course he won't explain it. He knows he is an ass and nobody would fess up to that.
 
#12 ·
It's not UNIQUE but MOST men do NOT act like that. This sounds very selfish and immature and it's not ok for him to treat you poorly because you're a live woman. I would be very clear with him about how he is treating you - like an object - and do NOT be apologetic for being a live woman and getting your period and when he acts moody because of it, point it out to him and tell him it is a big TURN OFF to you and YOU feel less like having sex with him EVER because you now feel like all you are to him is a vagina.
 
#19 · (Edited)
“Hey baby, just cuz the Ferris Wheel is broken, you don’t go shut down the whole amusement park!”

j/k

Nothing wrong with period cunnilingus or period intercourse, IMO. If he’s a real man, that is. Often the best time for a woman as far as sensation and helping with cramps and headaches.

Funny, you have other people on TAM unsure if they can put up with a sexless marriage. He’s unable to cope with 4-5 days.
 
#24 ·
Nothing wrong with period cunnilingus or period intercourse, IMO. If he’s a real man, that is.
Damn. I've given away so many of my man cards over the years. Where do I turn this one in?

Guess I'll have to do that yard work and oil change tomorrow after all. My stockpile is running low.
 
#21 ·
This is a non issue annoyance. Of course that isn't all he is to you. Sometimes I'm a big ass for seemingly no reason. My wife can be a big B sometimes when she's on her period. At least you and I know the timing. Chalk that up as a win. The reason he's grumpy is because he enjoys sex with his wife so much it bums him out when, as we say here, "Mrs *****cat is on vacation," and he gets irritable as a result. That's another win, believe me.

Maybe he can be less of a jerk, but meh, you probably got things you do he's not that thrilled about but he still loves you and not just because what is between your legs. Otherwise he wouldn't have bothered with all the legal consequences and expenses to lock you down, not to mention all the compromises he's surely made along the way. No offense to the ladies but ain't no poon that good.
 
#23 ·
I have met very few men who truly only care about that one body part. Most of the men I know in my life are well rounded individuals who love their wives or girlfriends for the whole picture, not just sex. As one guy has said to me on more than one occasion..."sex is great, but you need a woman you still want to be around for the rest of the day."

It sounds like your husband really enjoys PIV sex with you and that's great. But he does a poor job of dealing with his disappointment when that's off the table for a few days. Tell him to grow up a little bit...it's not like you can help it.

On the other hand, there are millions of women out there who would kill for a guy that wants them as much as your husband seems to want you...you could try looking at it that way as well, it might soften the annoyance a bit.
 
#26 ·
My husband has a habit of being moody when i am on my period and we cannot do what we want to do the way we want to do.
So I asked him and he cannot explain satisfactorily.

Is he unique or is this a general case?
I think you meant to ask, "is he a selfish ass-hole who thinks with his d*ck?"

The answer is yes.

I mean come on, what is he? 16 years old?
 
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#28 ·
MaiChi, from your posts and threads you seem adorable, and it's obvious you love your husband and that he loves you.

So, there's a wrinkle in the relationship during your period, this can happen.

It wasn't lost on me when you said he gets pouty when ''we can't do things the way we want to''

That is a beautiful, wifely attitude.

I can't offer any magic words to address the present issue, but if you go at your husband with the level of vitriol that some posters in this thread exhibit, then I suspect more damage than good will come from it.
 
#32 ·
As I see it, being loved for your outside attributes is a good thing.
The inside is loved for other reasons.

A man cannot talk to a boob.
His lover's fold holds his attention but for a few minutes, maybe an hour, at best.

The rest of the time it is the inner woman he sees and appreciates.
If this were not true, men would not marry, and would visit prostitutes, only.

It would certainly be cheaper.

When men stop looking at woman as sex objects, then society will fall apart. It is that need that bonds them to their chosen love.

What keeps them is the camaraderie and the back and forth talk. Doing things....together.

This sexual desire on their part is needed, oh, oh, so much.

A man can have male friends, but they are not equipped to be 'natural' lovers.
Oops..

When men lose sexual interest in woman, be very afraid.

KB-

Be ever so happy that he finds you desirable. When he stops being that man, then replace him.
 
#36 ·
Some women will speak about how women have a special sense of empthy. They will explain that women have a rich emotional life that men could never imagine.

That is because they are utterly unempathetic and that mens' emotional life does not really count.

Fortunately, that is only a minority of women.

Men while, some men think like you describe, some get very sexually fustrated easily and some have an intense need for physical intimacy.
 
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