Originally Posted by She'sStillGotIt View Post
FINALLY a voice of reason amongst the feral dogs. LOL!!
Maybe I'm a domesticated dog? Still have my feral instincts, but...
On the one hand we have the ability to keep a spectacular renter who would treat the house you've purchased and fixed up very well while paying rent on time and in full.
On the other hand we have some discomfort and vague concern due to the renter and your wife's previous sexual relationship.
It's true they had a sexual relationship in the past, however it was a casual thing that ended before you started dating several years ago. Not all people make such a big deal of sex. Some are completely capable of being FWB without getting attached. Your wife seems to be one of those people. And, frankly, she
ended the relationship according to one of your posts. If she'd wanted him it sounds like she could have had him. She chose to walk away several years ago instead. Also, attraction isn't necessarily forever. There were men I was involved with years ago that I was very attracted to when we were FWB's in the past, but who I have run into in recent years and feel no particular attraction toward. I've changed, they've changed, whatever spark was there just fizzled into nothing in the intervening years .
Yes, they've broken the touch barrier. But it was many years ago and they've shown no signs of still carrying torches for each other. It sounds like their interactions have been nothing but professional since. I'd still consider renting to him and his fiancee. And I'm a territorial and possessive person, but my in-laws have been landlords and my parents were renters for decades. I know how hard it is to find a good renter. I think the deciding factor would be how much interaction does she have with her tenants in general and him in particular? When my parents were renters we only saw the landlord if there was a maintenance problem or if they were the kind that picked up the rent check and when doing the beginning and ending walk-throughs. When I was renting I only saw the landlord if there was a maintenance problem (rare) and for the walk-throughs because picking up the rent checks had long since fallen out of favor in this area and landlords just wanted them mailed or done via EFT.
If there's very little to no interaction between them or if you could handle most/all contact with him I'd say, considering the circumstances in their entirety, the risk of them getting involved again is negligible.