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post #1 of 16 (permalink) Old 11-14-2019, 03:08 PM Thread Starter
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Last night, I found out that my friend Rob has passed away. We met on Bumble about a year ago, and really hit it off. I met my current beau that same week, but Rob and I remained in contact and were thankful to have met and we turned into good friends. Since Iíve gotten back from my trip, we had been trying to find an evening to meet up for a couple drinks, but between his work schedule and meeting his new girlfriend a couple months ago, the time was never found until he messaged me last minute one evening when I wasnít able to go for whatever reason. This is something Iíll forever regret.

I texted him last night to see about making this happen, and got no response for a couple hours, which was very weird. I went to his Facebook page, and saw it flooded with messages. My heart feels like itís in a million pieces, for him, his little boy who just turned 4, his family, girlfriend, his huge amount of friends, and his coworkers who found him. He was a bright light, and the world has lost someone pretty damn fantastic, but I guess Heaven needed him more.

Causes arenít 100% known, but itís possible that it was a mixture of a couple drinks combined with something to help him sleep, which was a hard thing to come by for him. Life sure does suck sometimes.

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That is so rough!

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@Ursula I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. It's so sad to see anyone pass but especially one so young with a young son. My heart breaks for his loved ones. So very sad.
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Aw man, Ursula, I'm so sorry you lost a good friend. I remember when my best friend passed in 2001. I was devastated and felt a huge regret too.

Hugs to you during this time.
Will you be able to attend services?
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Thoughts for you, on your loss

If your not the object of your lovers heart, then your just an object.
If you think the grass is greener on the otherside it's not, what you see are the weeds.
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Aw man, Ursula, I'm so sorry you lost a good friend. I remember when my best friend passed in 2001. I was devastated and felt a huge regret too.

Hugs to you during this time.
Will you be able to attend services?
I'm sorry to hear about your best friend; such a tough time, hey? I will be attending the service this Saturday, yes.
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Yes, it was a very tough time. She had been saying things like "If I died, nobody would come to my funeral." She felt no one cared about her because she'd been in the hospital two weeks prior and few people but her siblings visited. That was my huge regret. I felt terrible to know she'd been in the hospital and I didn't visit or call or anything, but I had to let her know that I wasn't aware because nobody told me. Her family didn't tell anyone. After that, she was sure to tell her daughter and sisters know to call me if anything ever happened to her. 300-400 people attended her service and many had wonderful things to say about her. Between my sobs, I just kept thinking "If only she were here to see this, she would know how loved she was."

Ask someone to go with you so you're not there alone. It will probably be rough.
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Ursula I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. Please don't give yourself grief for not meeting with him when he asked. You obviously had no idea this would happen.

I'm glad you're able to attend his funeral Saturday.
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I'm very sorry, Ursula.

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Ursula, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend.

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.


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So very sorry for this sudden loss! Grief is such an empty thing. Y'all's inability to meet was a reflection of the schedules of both. Remember the good stuff.
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Sorry for your loss, I have a friend who just went comatose. We donít know how long he has, but his time is near. Saddest part for his children is that his wife passed a few months ago.
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