ó thank-you! Yes, weíre both concerned about his little girl and about our future. I guess the one good thing that came out of it was we shared a lot of feelings last night. I told him that my heart was in this 100%; he said the same thing. And, that it was my hope and desire to be a part of his family someday; he wishes the same thing. And, his daughter seeing a psychologist is something that I suggested last night, and heís going to look into it. I also see a psychologist at the moment for issues dealing with my immediate family, and I think that talking to someone when youíre overwhelmed is a good thing.
ó just to confirm that Iíve never stayed over at his place when his daughter is there. I respect her and her space and would never want to make her feel uncomfortable, so we just donít go there. But I do agree that time away from her would be good, and Iím really glad that she doesnít dislike me.
ó he has 50/50 custody with his ex, so he has her 1 week on, 1 week off.
ó what you mention is I think what we both hope for: that by taking control of his life, and still being there when she needs him, it will show her some stability. Actually, I may show him your post, if you donít mind; you have a lot of good words and insight in there!
ó yes, I agree.
ó I actually thought about suggesting this, but held back. But, I did consider that if the words came directly from me, it might ease her mind a bit. She definitely doesnít know me well enough at this point, and so she doesnít know that I have no plans on taking her Dad away from her at all. And I do agree that we all need adult relationships with friends and an SO, and those are important to keep a person well-rounded and happy. Itís unhealthy to just focus on 1 thing or 1 person, and even though Iím not a parent, I would think that being happy and well-rounded would make a person a better parent.
ó THAT is exactly why I bit my tongue on suggesting that one. If we were at the point of moving in together, or getting engaged, thatís a different story, but we arenít.