Re: Ex boyfriend got married?
It sounds like he was not being up front with more people than just you. Hanging around a crowd who hates your home country, ethnicity and religion while having sex with the women in that group requires a lot of hiding one's true feelings, whether for survival or for strategic reasons.
The only thing I fault him with is that he didn't find a different group of friends and girlfriends around whom he could be authentic, and not have to worry about being attacked.
The two of you were extremely incompatable. You think that you loved him so much, even though you hated everything about his heritage, genetics, home country, etc. Your group went so far as to support other groups that would literally destroy his family and home country. Do you really think think that you would have had a good marriage?
I totally understand his wedding speech. A person wants to be married to, be vulnerable to, a person who feels "safe" and who accepts you for who you are.
I'm not Jewish or Israeli BTW. I just don't believe that entire groups of people should be targeted for distruction.