Re: Ex boyfriend got married?
I hope that you understand that his feelings for you are not an indication of your personal worth. It doesn't mean that you are objectively inferior to his wife. Attraction and love are very subjective.
Sometimes a person still has feelings for an ex- but starts dating others. As they say, the best way to get over one guy is to get under a new one. But yes, sometimes the feelings don't fade and you're still pining for the ex.
I have a friend who married a woman from his same Asian racial background. (Let's call it Vietnamese.) He dated white women and women from other Asian backgrounds, but he always had a certain woman in mind from when I met him. At one point he was dating three different women in three different cities, flying around the country to see each of them. He told me that this particular ex never worried when he dated another woman unless she was Vietnamese. When I heard that, I realized that he would only marry a Vietnamese woman. Sure enough, he reconciled with the ex and they are now long married with children.
Obviously, my friend had a particular type of woman in mind for him. At other times, you will meet a man who is perfect for you but it won't work out for various "timing issues": he's heartbroken over an ex, he's unemployed or not yet established enough in his career to settle down, etc. A lot of it comes down to timing. Try as best as you can to not take it too personally.
Also, I wouldn't necessarily assume that what is said at a wedding reception is the full, unvarnished truth. Couples over time revise their background stories to make them more romantic, and he was speaking before an audience that wanted to hear that their relationship was special and magical. It wasn't intended for your ears. If he were speaking privately to you, with his wife unable to hear, he might say something very different that would hurt her if she heard it.