What kind of reaction do you expect from your wife?
I'm not the jealous type. I view jealousy as a very immature and insecure behavior. I hate drama.
Do you want more attention from your wife? Do you feel lonely when you go out without her? I feel something is missing. Be careful with your midlife crisis because you might do or say things you'll regret in the future.
My husband works in customer service. He talks and interacts with women all day. He's got female friends. He goes out of town with friends, he's very social. I don't feel jealous of him having a social life. I trust him and he's shown me he's loyal to me. Why would I feel jealous when he's showing me he's not doing anything wrong? I'm happy when he's happy!
Maybe your wife doesn't show interest in your social life? And you need that type of attention? My husband tells me what he did after a night out, and I ask questions about it. I always ask if he had fun.
I wouldn't like my husband to spend the night at a hotel, though. Not because of me feeling jealous but because I'd miss him. My husband takes an Uber back if he's drinking.
How's your relationship with your wife apart from the non jealous behavior? Do you guys communicate well? What do you do together for fun?
The person who's having issues with this subject is you, not your wife. You can always ask her and see what she thinks about it. Actually, you should discuss this subject with her and find out what she's really feeling instead of asking a bunch of strangers that know nothing about your marriage.
Our relationship is very good for the most part. We rarely ever fight, and we don't have worries over money, and do go out to have fun together. I take her to operas, plays, etc. Date nights are important.
She is extremely pragmatic and practical, and a bit shy in the presence of company. She is either stone-faced and in control, or in tears (pretty rare), and has an easy-going personality. My friends like her, and she does come out with me to some of these events and meetups. She is very intelligent and from a pretty wealthy family (which introduces some complications--I will put that in another post). She is also a few years older than me.
Unlike me, she isn't "moved" by things like art, literature and music. Sure, she likes that stuff, but I can get lost in a book of poetry or a symphony, and will want to talk at length about it--she is like "oh that's nice". I know that sounds a bit harsh or critical, but not everyone is like me in regards to that stuff. I am very imaginative and a bit fiery: she is the exact opposite. I sometimes find myself wishing that she would let her hair down a bit, get a little more conviction about some things, etc.
Sex life is good, but not great. We had a rough patch with that a few years ago, but things have improved quite a bit.
One note on the hotel stuff: I have very bad night vision, so if I go out to a party or even into the city, I do not like to drive home, even if I haven't had a drop of alcohol. That is the primary reason for me to gt a room, but I haven't done it that many times.