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post #31 of 35 (permalink) Old 12-17-2019, 11:40 AM
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Re: Value

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Well I am older than my bf. And I fact every single man in his family married a women that was older than them. Including his dad, and brother. Even his cousin who married a women 15 years older than him.
Remaining single is always a good option.

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post #32 of 35 (permalink) Old 12-17-2019, 12:08 PM
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Re: Value

"Whatever it was... it made him feel like I didn’t appreciate him, and no matter what he did he couldn’t make me happy. So I’m sure it was me complaining and not appreciating him enough. "

If this is true I think it is unlikely he will be back. If this is how he feels he likely thinks this is something that can't be fixed.

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post #33 of 35 (permalink) Old 12-17-2019, 02:25 PM
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@Girl_power, I don't think your break up was due to your ex valuing any less I just think you got bait and switched. He knew the kind of guy he had to be to get you to be interested in him. Once he got you, he stopped pretending. The man who was there at the end is the real one. If you can't accept that version then you did the right thing by moving on.

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post #34 of 35 (permalink) Old 12-17-2019, 05:53 PM
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Use this time to be introspective. If you were critical then you did him a favor as it is not a good quality to possess in a relationship.
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post #35 of 35 (permalink) Old 12-18-2019, 12:35 AM
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You two seem to be good people, but not the best match. I agree this is a really good time for self-reflection and to analyze the things that make you happy. Its equally important to understand the role you played in the breakdown as well as figuring out exactly what you wanted/needed from him. I swear by the Love Languages book! Its a really short read and allows for some powerful insight on your wants/needs along with your potential partners. Though you are removed from that relationship now, I bet you would learn what your previous partner needed. The complaint "nothing is ever good enough" is normally said by someone who wants to hear that they are appreciated. He probably needed more words of affirmation to feel valued/loved.

Regardless, breakups suck and the loneliness is cold. I hope the mourning phase passes quickly and you meet someone new in 2020!
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