Hereís the thing... I never really learned how to date. It was never taught or explained to me by my mom or whoever. All I had was a guide from the church. I married my high school sweetheart, and now that I am dating again I donít really know how to.
I wonder where we all learn how to date? Who teaches young girls and young boys how to treat the other?
Does anyone actually get taught how to date? I certainly wasn't. To me its just meeting with someone and chatting and getting to know them and seeing if you have anything in common.
I married young, at 19, engaged at 18, so didn't have that much experience of dating compared to many. I did have 2 boyfriends before my first husband, one at age 15-16 and one at age 17, both lasted several months, the second emigrated to OZ with his family, so that was that.
I don't think dating is something that can be taught though.
Once my first marriage ended after 25 years and I had had 4 years to recover a bit, I began dating again(online). By then my standards were far higher in what I wanted in man. Not the usual, 'he must be rich', or 'he must be tall' sort of shallow standards, but things like, he must be a strong Christian, he must not expect sex outside marriage, no porn, completely honest, have integrity etc etc. Pretty hard to find a man like that in the UK(or anywhere I suspect), so I only had a date with 3 men in the 2 years before I met my husband. I got on well with one of them but he was still pretty messed up from his divorce so that wasn't an option as I was more than ready to marry again by then.
Then I met 'the one' who was all I wanted and asked for, and the rest is history.