Don't you just simply mean "what do you look for in a partner when dating?"
I hear all the time, have standards, donít lower your standards. Having standards is a reflection of self worth. If you donít have any standards one would say negative things like your easy, desperate, have low self esteem/worth. If your standards are too high then people would say your unrealistic, high maintenance, impossible expectations, and judgmental.
So what are normal standards when dating? Has anyone ever dated someone with too low or too high of standards and what did that look like?
The premises behind this question need to be challenged. >>>Having standards is a reflection of self worth.
I guess sort of like what you drive is a reflection of your financial worth?
>>>Has anyone ever dated someone with too low or too high of standards and what did that look like?
Not sure how anyone can really answer this. What does "too low" or "too high" mean? Too low or high to you or to other people? If someone you're dating breaks up with you, do you file that under "too high standards"? When is it about "standards" vs simply preferences or chemistry? If you're dating someone that you think has "too low" standards, does that mean that you think they should be dating someone "better" than you? Or are we supposed to conclude that someone has "too low" standards if they break up with you for someone who is "not as pretty" as you? Or has less money? Or whatever? How are you even supposed to know what your dating partner's "standards" really are?
So if you remove all the noise about what other people will think or worrying about how who you date will reflect on you or your self worth, etc, aren't you really just asking: "What do you look for in a partner when dating?"
How is your question any different from this?
To state it explicitly in case my point is too subtle, using the term "standard" suggests that there is a clearly defined, linear "quality" scale applied to people. I once worked in a supermarket and got to know the USDA standards for meat (Prime, Choice, Select, Standard, etc). The standard is based on clearly defined criteria. Do you mean this kind of thing being applied to people? That's the assumption/premise that sits behind your question. This is problematic and can be even be considered offensive. Sorry but the first thing that comes to mind regarding trying to apply defined quality standards to people in order to determine their worth on an objective scale is the slave trade.
Therefore, instead of trying to answer this question, I reject the premises and assumptions that sit behind it.