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post #31 of 131 (permalink) Old 01-16-2020, 11:38 AM
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Oh man, I'm going to regret this, but what the hell.

The stepdaughter isn't a pre-pubescent 10 year old. She's 30. If her stepfather is fantasizing about her, it's one adult fantasizing about another adult to whom he is not related.

All of you stepmoms with teenage stepsons who find this nauseating? Don't ever ask for a sincere accounting of your stepson's fantasy life. You might not recover.
For the sake of discussion, I wonder how many men would be okay knowing that their wives have sexual fantasies starring their step sons? I also wonder how many step sons would feel okay knowing their step mom's watch porn and diddle to them?

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For the sake of discussion, I wonder how many men would be okay knowing that their wives have sexual fantasies starring their step sons? I also wonder how many step sons would feel okay knowing their step mom's watch porn and diddle to them?
Probably hardly anyone would be comfortable with it. I get that.
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For the sake of discussion, I wonder how many men would be okay knowing that their wives have sexual fantasies starring their step sons? I also wonder how many step sons would feel okay knowing their step mom's watch porn and diddle to them?
Gross. Age doesn't matter here. If Mrs. Conan's stepdad got caught doing this with her as the focal point of his pathetic wanking or whatever, he would become ex communicated from my direct family.

I also meant to say that gender doesn't make it any less gross.

If I lost Mrs. C and remarried only to find out my wife was living out some kinky fantasy about my son it would be over.

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Probably hardly anyone would be comfortable with it. I get that.
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Gross. Age doesn't matter here. If Mrs. Conan's stepdad got caught doing this with her as the focal point of his pathetic wanking or whatever, he would become ex communicated from my direct family.

I also meant to say that gender doesn't make it any less gross.

If I lost Mrs. C and remarried only to find out my wife was living out some kinky fantasy about my son it would be over.
Thanks for responding. I think it's completely disgusting either way but wasn't sure if this was strictly a woman issue or not.
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Thanks for responding. I think it's completely disgusting either way but wasn't sure if this was strictly a woman issue or not.
It's not a woman or a man issue.

My wife finds oral disgusting.
I find anal a little disgusting.
Many women find rape fantasies disgusting, but just as many women have them.
Many people find pegging, S&M, and a whole host of other sexual desires to be disgusting. Disgust is in the eyes of the disgusted.

There is no objective truth here. What's your must prurient fantasy? Do you want to be judged for it?

The only reason I comment is because this one thing seems to be very high on the list of male interests, if our accumulated data on porn searches is any indicator. And because I'm almost sure to get labeled here, no I am not a stepfather or stepson and no this particular fantasy is not on my list.
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For the sake of discussion, I wonder how many men would be okay knowing that their wives have sexual fantasies starring their step sons?
We're firmly stepping into thought police territory now.

I don't think you get to choose what - or who - turn you on. I do think you get to choose what you do about it.
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Personally, I agree with you.

This man brought this situation on himself because he chose to get off in a space that wasn't truly private.

But, having said that, I think (as Marduk wrote as I was writing) playing the thought police is quite a slippery slope, and people are entitled to their privacy.

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It's not a woman or a man issue.

My wife finds oral disgusting.
I find anal a little disgusting.
Many women find rape fantasies disgusting, but just as many women have them.
Many people find pegging, S&M, and a whole host of other sexual desires to be disgusting. Disgust is in the eyes of the disgusted.

There is no objective truth here. What's your must prurient fantasy? Do you want to be judged for it?

The only reason I comment is because this one thing seems to be very high on the list of male interests, if our accumulated data on porn searches is any indicator. And because I'm almost sure to get labeled here, no I am not a stepfather or stepson and no this particular fantasy is not on my list.
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Personally, I agree with you.

This man brought this situation on himself because he chose to get off in a space that wasn't truly private.

But, having said that, I think (as Marduk wrote as I was writing) playing the thought police is quite a slippery slope, and people are entitled to their privacy.
His own locked bathroom in his own house in the early morning hours when he thought everyone was asleep isn’t private enough?
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Obviously not.

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His own locked bathroom in his own house in the early morning hours when he thought everyone was asleep isnít private enough?
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Thanks for responding. I think it's completely disgusting either way but wasn't sure if this was strictly a woman issue or not.
It's not a woman or a man issue.

My wife finds oral disgusting.
I find anal a little disgusting.
Many women find rape fantasies disgusting, but just as many women have them.
Many people find pegging, S&M, and a whole host of other sexual desires to be disgusting. Disgust is in the eyes of the disgusted.

There is no objective truth here. What's your must prurient fantasy? Do you want to be judged for it?

The only reason I comment is because this one thing seems to be very high on the list of male interests, if our accumulated data on porn searches is any indicator. And because I'm almost sure to get labeled here, no I am not a stepfather or stepson and no this particular fantasy is not on my list.
You are right that fantasies are personal. I still think if I was the step daughter in this situation, I would probably stay the **** away from my stepdad. I would feel sad about having to put boundaries on visits with my mom but I don't think I could forget what I know about her spouse.

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I wonder what her name is.

If itís something thatís a common name or is a common porn screen name Iíd be laughing out loud.

But... my stepdaughters name is ďIvana Humpalot, you perv!Ē

You could just search it up on one of the porn sites and see what comes up. If thereís like a million hits, I donít think she has a leg to stand on. If itís unique or he admits he was acting out a fantasy about her, then you have a potential problem.
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He had to know that there would be a pretty good chance that he would be overheard by someone.

Could he have engineered the accidental outing of himself? Possibly as a way to clue DIL into the fact that he fancies her?

Or as a way to encourage her to leave his home?


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True, but at the same time I think a lot of people have fantasies that would make others very uncomfortable. Its very difficult when one of these is discovered, but I work on the assumption that those fantasies are out there.

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You are right that fantasies are personal. I still think if I was the step daughter in this situation, I would probably stay the **** away from my stepdad. I would feel sad about having to put boundaries on visits with my mom but I don't think I could forget what I know about her spouse.
That's fair.

I would have some subversive (and admittedly probably a little mean) fun with it.
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He had to know that there would be a pretty good chance that he would be overheard by someone.

Could he have engineered the accidental outing of himself? Possibly as a way to clue DIL into the fact that he fancies her?

Or as a way to encourage her to leave his home?
Again, in his own locked bathroom in the early hours of the morning when he thought everyone was asleep?

I think he did more than enough to be private.
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