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post #46 of 131 (permalink) Old 01-16-2020, 12:53 PM
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Unless he was extraordinary loud, I really don't get how she was able to hear and understand what was going on - unless she was eavesdropping.

Walking past a closed door in the morning? I'm just not buying that.

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Unless he was extraordinary loud, I really don't get how she was able to hear and understand what was going on - unless she was eavesdropping.

Walking past a closed door in the morning? I'm just not buying that.
That’s my guess. Throw on some porn. Listen for a woman’s name.

You’ll probably have to listen for a while to hear one.

And it’s unlikely he had the volume cranked at that time of the morning.

It does provide the stepdaughter for a convenient method to get the stepdad out of the picture, though. She’d have a free crash pad with her mommy as long as she wanted, then.

Again, if he was specifically fantasizing about her, different story maybe. But nothing here says that.
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You are right that fantasies are personal. I still think if I was the step daughter in this situation, I would probably stay the **** away from my stepdad. I would feel sad about having to put boundaries on visits with my mom but I don't think I could forget what I know about her spouse.
In which case the door is in exactly the same place it was when she moved her stuff into the house...and it allows for said stuff to be moved out.

ETA: FTR, I meant the step-daughter.

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The fact he didn't know he was caught until the wife brought it up makes me wonder what the s-d was doing.
Doesn't sound like she caught him by accident. Was there already a strained relationship between him and the s-d? Was she mad at him? He at her?

If he was embarrassed it would seem he didn't know he had been found out whatever the fantasy was.

I'm with whoever asked it her name is a common name, and what was the history on the device he was using show?
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I'm wondering if those employing the 'king of the castle' defense would be as vehement if the guy had called out the name of the one year old granddaughter.

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The core issue here is: was he doing it while fantasizing about the stepdaughter? If so, I agree that it's gross and he's the problem. If he wasn't, than I think the stepdaughter is the problem.

I have never had a fantasy related to a person's name, ever. And I have quite a rich fantasy life.
This. Adding the name, to me, is where one has to be concerned about blending fantasy with reality and possibly losing track of the difference. It's not the creepiness that's the issue here. Creepy might be worth a pass. It's the personalization that's key. Someone asked (@Lila ?) if if was a common name. My assumptions is that, had it been, that would have been part of the guy's apology. That it wasn't about her, but someone else. Or just a random thing.
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In which case the door is in exactly the same place it was when she moved her stuff into the house...and it allows for said stuff to be moved out.

ETA: FTR, I meant the step-daughter.

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I totally agree. I would be high tailing it out of there ASAP. Applying to every social service assistance offered. No way would I stay there longer than I absolutely had to.

It's sad. This is going to no doubt strain her relationship with her mother. I'm not sure it could ever go back to the way it was.
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Thatís my guess. Throw on some porn. Listen for a womanís name.

Youíll probably have to listen for a while to hear one.

And itís unlikely he had the volume cranked at that time of the morning.

It does provide the stepdaughter for a convenient method to get the stepdad out of the picture, though. Sheíd have a free crash pad with her mommy as long as she wanted, then.

Again, if he was specifically fantasizing about her, different story maybe. But nothing here says that.
I got the impression that it was his house? So how would she have a free crash pad?


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I got the impression that it was his house? So how would she have a free crash pad?
The step daughter demanded that her mom divorce the step dad, remember?

While living in his house at 30 years old with a kid of her own?

Having him thrown out of his own house would be awfully convenient for this 30 year old child.
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I'm wondering if those employing the 'king of the castle' defense would be as vehement if the guy had called out the name of the one year old granddaughter.
Have you ever watched any? If so, have you ever searched up someone by name because that's the name of someone in real life that you're fantasizing over?

I've never even heard of that. I'm sure somebody has done it, but I highly suspect it's more about what the actress looks like and does than it is about her name.

The guy didn't call out her name. At least that's not how I read it. I thought the name was used in what he was watching, not as vocalized by him.

But I guess we're all speculating here. I'll stop until we get more info.

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The step daughter demanded that her mom divorce the step dad, remember?

While living in his house at 30 years old with a kid of her own?

Having him thrown out of his own house would be awfully convenient for this 30 year old child.
The step-daughter has a right to voice her extreme displeasure, to call into question the ethics & morals of the man her mother married, but she does not have the right to demand that she divorce him. That's just wrong. Lots of discussion to go on before divorce is the subject at hand.
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If anyone actually thinks he wasn't aware that the name he used was his stepdaughter's name and that wasn't WHY he used it....

I have this cool mansion in the middle of the Pacific Ocean to sell you.

Nothing wrong with masturbating. Something weird about masturbating while thinking about your stepdaughter when she LIVES in the house....
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Unless he was extraordinary loud, I really don't get how she was able to hear and understand what was going on - unless she was eavesdropping.

Walking past a closed door in the morning? I'm just not buying that.
Dude, in my house you can clearly hear a whispered conversation from one closed door bedroom that's happening in another closed door bedroom. The bathroom, other than having a door, isn't any more private from a soundproofing point of view.

The house my friend grew up in had tiled bathrooms. You could literally hear breathing in the hall because the tiles echoed.

Follow the evidence where it leads and question everything.
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The step daughter demanded that her mom divorce the step dad, remember?

While living in his house at 30 years old with a kid of her own?

Having him thrown out of his own house would be awfully convenient for this 30 year old child.
Machiavellian. The guy is still warped regardless.
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I'm wondering if those employing the 'king of the castle' defense would be as vehement if the guy had called out the name of the one year old granddaughter.
This is, forgive me, kind of a ludicrous post.

Kindly, I don't think any responses even come close to even remotely indicating that type of accusation is warranted.
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