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post #91 of 131 (permalink) Old 01-16-2020, 06:09 PM
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For the sake of discussion, I wonder how many men would be okay knowing that their wives have sexual fantasies starring their step sons? I also wonder how many step sons would feel okay knowing their step mom's watch porn and diddle to them?
Absolutely, just what I said in my post above.

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So you dont think that we should act with integrity towards other family members who may be either living there or visiting? I have 2 adult step sons, believe me its not appropriate that I watch porn and fantasise about them, even silently.
I cant understand that mothers 'don't care' attitude towards her daughters concerns. Very selfish.
Her post is sarcastic. She’s arguing exactly what you just wrote in her other posts.
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We're firmly stepping into thought police territory now.

I don't think you get to choose what - or who - turn you on. I do think you get to choose what you do about it.
Yep you definitely DO get to chose who you allow yourself to fantasise about A family member is a complete no no.
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It is completely clear. Either people read it too quickly or they are choosing not to comprehend what they read correctly.
I think we need clarification before we speculate further.
Actually we don't. It is in black and white in her post.
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This highlights a serious problem with men and porn. What begins as a “harmless” release leads to addiction followed by greater and greater depravity just for novelty and excitement. Now the poor creep is fantasizing about family members... disgusting really. Yeah, porn really leads men astray. So sad... no one will trust him with their daughters- I wouldn’t. Daughters are too precious.
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And this is why i do all my private verbal fantasizing in a different language...


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Oh man, I'm going to regret this, but what the hell.

The stepdaughter isn't a pre-pubescent 10 year old. She's 30. If her stepfather is fantasizing about her, it's one adult fantasizing about another adult to whom he is not related.

All of you stepmoms with teenage stepsons who find this nauseating? Don't ever ask for a sincere accounting of your stepson's fantasy life. You might not recover.
Why is a man who is related by marriage even letting himself fantasise about his own wife's daughter? Its completely wrong and inappropriate. Is he going to do the same when his granddaughter is in her teens? I am amazed that anyone thinks its ok. Some people act like we don't have a choice of who we fantasise about, we really do.
As the mother, her responsibility is to protect her children and grandchildren. I would not trust him to be around them.
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This highlights a serious problem with men and porn. What begins as a “harmless” release leads to addiction followed by greater and greater depravity just for novelty and excitement. Now the poor creep is fantasizing about family members... disgusting really. Yeah, porn really leads men astray. So sad... no one will trust him with their daughters- I wouldn’t. Daughters are too precious.
Nor me, mind you I wouldn't be with a man who watched porn anyway.
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Her post is sarcastic. She’s arguing exactly what you just wrote in her other posts.
OK.Thanks.

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Unless he was extraordinary loud, I really don't get how she was able to hear and understand what was going on - unless she was eavesdropping.

Walking past a closed door in the morning? I'm just not buying that.
if the house was quiet I can quite understand how she could hear it.

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That’s my guess. Throw on some porn. Listen for a woman’s name.

You’ll probably have to listen for a while to hear one.

And it’s unlikely he had the volume cranked at that time of the morning.

It does provide the stepdaughter for a convenient method to get the stepdad out of the picture, though. She’d have a free crash pad with her mommy as long as she wanted, then.

Again, if he was specifically fantasizing about her, different story maybe. But nothing here says that.
Nothing here says she was making it up either and he did admit it.
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I'm wondering if those employing the 'king of the castle' defense would be as vehement if the guy had called out the name of the one year old granddaughter.
Yes, or your 10 or 15 year old granddaughter.
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Sense of humor alert! She posts a certain way and was trying to make a point while still having a couple laughs.

I believe she didn't give a good example but she was arguing against his home being an excuse for disgusting behavior towards a guest.
I don’t think it was humourous and I don’t think it had anything to do with the stepdaughter because logically that makes no sense. She’s a 30 year old mother.

I do think it had everything to do with porn and I do think it had everything to do with broad brushing men.

I’ve been quite vocal on this forum about how broad brushing women is BS and I expect the same treatment about men.

And about porn: for all you pearl clutching “porn is bad” folks, here’s how it gets used with us: sparingly, only when we’re together, and it’s my wife’s idea and pick 99% of the time.

This may shock people, but many grown ups can use grown up stuff responsibly.

And FFS the highest growth in porn use is women!

You guys are wild.
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Nothing here says she was making it up either and he did admit it.
Which is why I stopped speculating and asked for clarification.
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I don’t think it was humourous and I don’t think it had anything to do with the stepdaughter because logically that makes no sense. She’s a 30 year old mother.

I do think it had everything to do with porn and I do think it had everything to do with broad brushing men.

I’ve been quite vocal on this forum about how broad brushing women is BS and I expect the same treatment about men.

And about porn: for all you pearl clutching “porn is bad” folks, here’s how it gets used with us: sparingly, only when we’re together, and it’s my wife’s idea and pick 99% of the time.

This may shock people, but many grown ups can use grown up stuff responsibly.

And FFS the highest growth in porn use is women!

You guys are wild.
I know her posts and happen to disagree with you on this one.
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