Re: Coping with a partner's body alterations/piercings/tattoos
This is a tough one. I'd want to know why my wife wanted to modify her body, surgically. But I'm a bit perplexed as to whether there would be a difference between an out-of-shape & overweight person modifying their body through exercise, vs surgery. How is one much different, in terms of the spouse's, what, expectations?, than the other?
My wife has, over the years, transformed from a super-cute 5'3" 120lb 34b to someone who, in my eyes, remains gorgeous as a 200 pound woman with a heavy roll above her waist (donut they call it?), thinning hair, and two terribly-reconstructed boobs after a dual mastectomy. And I do mean gorgeous. Do I wish she'd get in shape? Yes, but not because it would change how I see her. Because she would live longer and, if we want to get even more selfish, sex could be more varied.
But after being married to her 40 years, knowing her for 43, if she really wanted a tattoo, my view on it today would be far more permissible than it might have been back then. After all we've been through, I might be fine with a tattoo that said "My husband was my first true love." Or something like that.