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post #46 of 63 (permalink) Old 02-06-2020, 06:56 PM
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That is a great deal! Every little bit helps
Yeah if we didn't have this benefit, I would have the cheapest ass used phone I could find.

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I am frugal but not cheap. There is a difference. I have to be--I don't make a ton of money. Neither does my husband. He likes to joke that if we ever became insanely rich, I'd still love a bargain. He is not wrong. While it's a necessity, I get a huge thrill out of finding a bargain. It's a visceral reaction. It's a sport to me. If there were a game show about this, I'd totally win.

You could pull any handbag or pair of shoes or a coat out of my closet and I could tell you where I found it and how much I paid. It's weird, I'll admit, but harmless because I live within my budget.

If you want to see cheap, check out Extreme Cheapskates on TLC. That will make your toes curl. Those fools are C.H.E.A.P.

I couldn't be with a cheap man. Frugal, yes. Cheap, no. Money, while nice, doesn't impress me much. I'm much more impressed with a man who can budget and live within his means and take care of business.
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If it means avoiding debt, then cheap I am! My wife can thank me later.
I’m with you there. I guess it’s all about how people want to live. I’d much rather be frugal/cheap and debt free that to be surrounded by lavish stuff and having to bust my butt every second to keep it.
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Spouse is cheap.. although he does tip the servers good. BUT we usually have a coupon for dinner or he'll do take-out to avoid tipping. Not sure if it's cheap or being frugal. We had carry-out last night and it was a bogo and he was so excited on what he saved for a family of 4. We all have what we need and yes I splurge on some things which he has no clue. I try new restaurants with friends which helps. He does not buy anything for himself until he absolute needs it. He is always worried about money but we have money in the bank, retirement fund and no debt.

It does get irritating at times. If we plan a vacation, it has to be the absolute best price and there were a couple times I cried cuz it was just so awful! He also likes to turn the lights off to save money. Just now he turned off the kitchen lite (I'm in the family room with a lamp on) but still like lights on. Some say they have no idea how I can live like this but we have been married so long now and I have what I need so it's ok.
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No, that's selfish. There's a difference

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Saying that is like which came first the egg or the chicken. When you justify that against your children it's both if one wants to get technical. You don't know his reasoning for saying and doing this. So saying it's selfish instead if cheap is indifferent.

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On a first date with a woman in NY I brought her to a fairly expensive restaurant. The tab was just over two hundred bucks.
She asked me if I wanted her to pay her share but I said of course not. She said she was uncomfortable with me paying for everything so I told her she could leave a tip.
She did.
Five dollars.
That was actually two dates, the first and the last.
I agree that $5 is way too low for a $200 tab, but what if she couldn't have afforded the $40 either.

Would you have felt better if she allowed you to pay for everything?
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I have some frugal friends. I like going out with them because it means I won't spend a lot of money that day.

I have also dealt with people who have more money than I do. They want to do what they normally do and then expect everything to be 50/50. Around them, I need to be careful.

If someone has cheap habits, I think that's fine as long as it doesn't impinge on me.
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I agree that $5 is way too low for a $200 tab, but what if she couldn't have afforded the $40 either.

Would you have felt better if she allowed you to pay for everything?
This woman could have easily afforded the tip. She was taking over a million a year at that stage.
I always paid for a first date, especially if it was me who did the asking.

When someone says itís not the money itís the principle,itís always the money.

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My last relationship... my ex never wanted to do anything like a vacation, or a mini get away or whatever. I work hard for my money, and I like to use my vacation time and enjoy my life. I had to go in many vacations by myself because my ex didn’t want to spend the money. .
I think we all feel that we work hard for our money, but I guess some of us view spending differently beyond that. I work hard for my money, so I don’t want to spend it in something that doesn’t satisfy me; I just feel like I’ve flushed it down the toilet.

I’m sure it’s how I was raised, but I also get great satisfaction in being able to pay for things that I “need.” I’ve noticed that it agitates a lot of people to have to buy things they need; they want to spend it all on fun.

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This woman could have easily afforded the tip. She was taking over a million a year at that stage.
I always paid for a first date, especially if it was me who did the asking.
Good grief! That kind of stinginess toward other people will come back to bite her in the butt one day. I sincerely hope.

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I think we all feel that we work hard for our money, but I guess some of us view spending differently beyond that. I work hard for my money, so I donít want to spend it in something that doesnít satisfy me; I just feel like Iíve flushed it down the toilet.

Iím sure itís how I was raised, but I also get great satisfaction in being able to pay for things that I ďneed.Ē Iíve noticed that it agitates a lot of people to have to buy things they need; they want to spend it all on fun.
Holy sh!t did you just describe some people I know. Make a comfortable living. But in my opinion, act like children and think everything they spend their money on should be "fun" or impress people. Facelift for a room? Fun. New furnace? Ughhhh. I hate this. No fun.....

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Good grief! That kind of stinginess toward other people will come back to bite her in the butt one day. I sincerely hope.

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Yep.

When someone says itís not the money itís the principle,itís always the money.
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I love it. I'm definitely a mama bear when someone tries to screw with my kids as a few people have learned over the years, including my exH.

I did eventually get him to see the ridiculousness of his behavior. He is the type to give you his knee jerk reaction to things, ie. the panic of spending money. He once freaked out over a large car repair bill and said we needed to just buy a new car. This was a bill that was large, yes, but we had the cash available and it was for routine maintenance. The excise tax alone on a new car would have been bigger than this bill. I gave him a couple hours, went over everything and he calmed down. 7 years later I traded that car in and got more than that repair cost even though the car was 14 years old. That car kicked butt, the only money I ever spent on it was for routine maintenance. And for 9 years we had no car payment on it. I would have been a fool to replace her when he wanted me to get a new one to avoid a car repair bill.

He also admitted later that perhaps a clothing item should be added to our budget. He's just super cheap...unless it's crap he wants and then he spent with abandon. That's the part that pissed me off. I can deal with having to give someone time to get used to having to spend the money but to be that way about everything except for the stupid stuff you want is annoying.
Sounds like your husband needs to learn to turn his own wrenches.

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Sounds like your husband needs to learn to turn his own wrenches.
LOL...EX-husband and I have a better chance of waking up a billionaire than of him learning car repair stuff.
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My exH was the worst kind of cheap...only cheap about the stuff other people in the family wanted or needed but very very generous when it was something he wanted. He loves to travel and he has a favorite destination that he visits over and over. If I asked to go there, even if we had no money for it he'd be fine. But I buy my kid new shoes because hers are in shreds and he would get upset. Grrr.

We made a budget once and we allotted a certain amount of spending money for each of us. A few weeks later I bought some new clothes for my daughter who had outgrown almost everything she owned. He actually said "you know that comes out of your spending money, right?" As if.
Just for clarity, is this *your* daughter from a previous relationship, or were you both her parents? It could make a difference, especially if he considers her to be spoiled or views your spending on her as excessive.

I don't expect my ex's new husband to spend a dime on my daughter.
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