, yes I relate to that, and I think thatís partly what happened. When he mentioned dinner out a week ago, I showed genuine surprise and excitement, but did mention that I donít usually do anything for V-day. Mostly, itís because itís generally been a depressing/painful day for me, and thereís no reason to celebrate that. I didnít actually SAY that though. However, what he took out of that conversation wasnít my excitement; it was my saying that I donít usually do anything for that day, which is why he thought that cancelling wouldnít be a big deal. So, itís really both of our faults: me for not communicating well enough; him for not hearing my excitement.
, itís not a one-off; this has happened before, just not on a special day. I do feel love for him, but have no idea how he feels about me, as we havenít communicated that at this point. But yes, we simply may be incompatible.
, yes his daughter comes first, and I actually commend him for that. However, if he wants to be in a relationship, he needs to put that first every once in awhile too. Not all the time; thatís not what Iím asking for. I just simply want to be a consideration, and I want US as a couple to be a priority sometimes.
, yes, when he suggested we go out for supper that evening, I showed surprise and excitement about the idea, but did mention that I havenít celebrated that day for a long time. He remembered the latter part, and thatís the reason why he didnít think it would be a big deal to me. Given your choices, Iíd guess that he thinks our relationship is more casual than I think it is at this point.
, I understand what youíre saying, and I hope that he doesnít feel that way. Heís been a single Dad for almost 2 years now, and weíve dated for almost a year. When we talked last night, one thing he said is that he usually makes stupid decisions/mistakes. I approached the subject in an upset manner, but not with my guns-a-blazing. He gets that he messed up, and apologized numerous times to me. We were both crying on the phone last night, but Iím not sure he was upset about us; he started crying when talking about his youngest daughter. He said that things will get better, and that he has to put his foot down with his youngest. I just wish he would do that sometimes. Honestly, I do think this was just a stupid and innocent mistake on his part, and he really had no clue as to how this would affect me. He knows now though, I think and hope.
, I do hear you, and your post struck a chord. I know this isnít great news, and itís hugely disappointing for me. I think that I think this relationship is way more important to me than it is to him. Iím not going to kick him to the curb just yet; I would like to see how the next month or two play out. I know heís going through a LOT right now, but that doesnít mean that he can just blow me off. I would love to know how he views this relationship and the position that I play in his life. I called the florist this morning to cancel the order, but am going to see how tonight goes (weíre seeing each other tonight unless the road conditions totally suck like they did last night. But, tonight will tell the tale of whether or not he gets his flowers on V-day.