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post #16 of 20 (permalink) Old 10-18-2017, 12:12 PM
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Re: A restraining order? Really?

It sounds like she may have a significant personality disorder. The black/white thinking is a sign of it. The good news is if she has another man on the line she will let go of you easier. She has made you out to be some kind of horrible person right now, but if she has someone else to put her attention on then she will lose focus on you. Whatever the root cause, your marriage is over and your goal should be a complete break from her with as little fallout on you as possible.

It isn't worth putting effort into figuring out why she is doing all this. Her history of going back to her other boyfriend is enough to show you she is unstable in the relationship. She may be bat **** crazy, she may have a diagnosable personality disorder, she may just not be able to get over her bf, or you two may be hopelessly incompatible. It is impossible for her to be the kind of wife you need. That's all you really need to know.

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Why did you marry such an awful woman?
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Thanks everyone it's just hard I know what I need to do. @Diana7 It's the old classic heart took over head I loved her it is why I forgave her when she left me for the ex I figured we would get through it together, she sounded sincere in her apology and I accepted it moved on and things were fine after that concerning the ex. No infidelity on my end and none on her end that I know of. We really were that omg you guys make me sick type of couple (being lovey) are bond was strong we just fought a lot and she always took chit way to far.
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[QUOTE=donewithit11;18554826]Thank you Thor I appreciate all the info. I just don't get it, it's like my wife has gotten possessed. It truly baffles me how 2 weeks ago before this fight everything was good, Maybe not great but (fixable). After she hung out with her bestie ex cop friend chit got worse. Plus to top it off the night I left she threw it in my face that she added her ex back to her facebook. They only dated 2 months but before my wife and I got married she left me to go back to the douche but came back to me 5 days later. Who so cruel I just don't understand.[/QUOTE]

The bolded part above is telling.

She settled for you.

Something about her EXBF was not kosher to her. He may not be dependable or she was not in love with him either.
He wanted her, he makes her feel wanted. Hence, adding him to her Facebook account.
Somethiing fishy about this. Maybe she has been contacting him for a while.
Now that you two are separated, they can come out in the open?

Even if she has no feelings for this guy [I doubt it], the fact that she added him to Facebook and then rubbed it in is hardball tactics. Heartless tactics.
Show disdain, maybe hate to you. Why is this?

This wife of yours is picky.
She will pick at good skin, creating a sore.

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Wow, your wife sounds like a real "treat" to have around. I would head for the hills as fast as possible, with a good lawyer in tow!
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