Originally Posted by Onarollercoaster View Post
We've both already seen counselors. He's seen one through he VA, and I've been seeing one through an employer-sponsored program. His counselor (that the VA sent him to) would not see him for a second visit--he was told he needed treatment beyond the scope of his or her expertise. He was given a referral and hasn't heard anything back. It took him six weeks to get the initial appointment, so I'd expect about the same for the referral.
I'm hoping that treatment will help him. This is a person I care deeply about and I feel like I should not be so quick to divorce him when he's clearly got something wrong with him. He's very serious about getting help, so I take that as a positive sign. I'm not going to hold out forever, but I'd like to at least give him the opportunity to get better before making a final decision. I mean, I know it's not entirely up to me, but he has given some indication that he isn't 100% certain divorce is what he wants.
Glad to hear you are seeing a counselor, keep seeing them if
you need to. Even if it is just to vent and a support network.
You have a lot to deal with and as I said you can't do it all.
The VA has and always will move very slow.
So much for Gov.healthcare. Glad to hear he is
serious about getting help also. First step in the
right direction is realizing there is a problem. Is he
currently on any medication ? Watch which ones he
may be on. That could be part of the problem. Have
you checked for any support groups near by ? For you
and him both. Lots of Vets and their spouses in similar
Have you moved back home or thought about it ?
Talk with your counselor first and consider if you
can deal with the current situation. Just like you
he has a lot of things going on. He really needs
help dealing with them. The problem is getting the
right help. I don't have much faith in the VA system
however. I know a lot of Vets that don't either.
Please take care of yourself and I hope both of
you together can and do work through this.
Only you can decide when to give up and move on