I havenít posted since my husband moved out in summer this year.
Iím still struggling 5 months later. Iíve tried so hard to be calm around him and generally things are amicable.
But I still canít get over the shock. I suspect that he may have had his head turned by someone but he denies this. He was secretive with his phone, staying out very late, detached from me, disappeared for hours alone. He is still friends with this woman.
I feel so afraid of the future. Both my parents have passed away and I miss their support. I never thought that Iíd lose them and then my husband. I thought I could always rely on him.
He has nothing good to say about our marriage, I had no idea heíd been so unhappy for so long. I know that there were fun times but he appears to have forgotten them.
Iím scared of what the future holds. We have 2 teens (living with me) and he is renting a place nearby. He doesnít communicate with me about the future or whether he wants to divorce. But says it is over and he has no feelings for me at all. He blames me and says I was a terrible wife and caused him misery. That hurts a great deal. He has a completely altered personality and is callous and cold.
I guess it hits hard at this time of year. Thank you for reading. I am trying to arrange some counselling.
Also, we had booked a family holiday which he was very keen to still go on Ďas friendsí, which we did. I would have thought that if there was OW, heíd try to get out of that holiday but he didnít. He did disappear a few times for lengthy period with his phone on holiday. I did ask him why. He reassured me again that thereís no one else. Would OW put up with this? Wouldnít she want him to herself? He is so committed to his children. I just donít know.
Cheaters lie, and because your parents passed 10 yes ago a husband is supposed to help their spouse heal, if they love them.
I know we are only getting your side but, he has another woman and this was before he moved out. He was testing his options, to see which served him better. The other women won out.
Good riddance, is what you should be thinking. And don't let the door hit you in the butt on your way out.
Yes she would want him to herself. But he was lying to her also. Go to the lawyer and file. He's not worthy of you hanging around to play the pick me dance. Boot his ass, and make him pay if not child support, or alimony then to help his kids in college if they choose.
And believe him when he says, that your marriage is over and that he has no feelings for you. It is because he has another woman. Let her have this piece of crap. He will do to her what he has done to you. I am glad your getting some counseling. It will help you move forward. Play no more games change the locks on the house, and prepare yourself for the ending of the marriage he threw away.
And do not ever give yourself to him, physically or mentally he doesn't deserve to play in your mind.
A new life for you is on the horizon, do make the best of it. And when men come to you, don't go fast you need a minimum of 1 year, or you'll be in a rebound relationship. Don't do that.