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I'm Divorced!!! Sort of...

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#1 ·
So my court hearing was this morning. It couldn't have gone more smoothly. We got to go first which I suspect was because our case was the simplest. We stood in front of the judge for about 2 minutes. She granted our divorce, thanked us for working everything out ourselves ( as she sort of sneered at all the other people waiting with their lawyers!!) and told me I'd get the certificate to change my name in 30 days. After that there is a 90 day period in which we can change our minds but once that's up the divorce is set in stone.

So, I'm divorced!! I thought I'd feel bittersweet or sad or emotional but I'm really kind of blah about it. I'm relieved the judge was okay with our settlement...I had been afraid she'd overrule his refusal of alimony. But she never even mentioned it. It wouldn't have been much but just the thought of having to pay him would have really irritated me!!!

Today just feels like a regular day. I'm tired from not sleeping well...thinking about taking a nap. :smile2:
 
#12 ·
That decree: Something you never thought that you would want, until you wanted it. Liberating and devastating at the same time. A beginning and an end. I have been in the hallway of the courthouse on the day that several of my clients received their final decree. I never really know what to expect. Reactions differ. One pulled me out of the courthouse to a bar, and began drinking heavily. One stood outside the courthouse, and said, "I'm going to get laid tonight. I don't care what he looks like, as long as he owns a ......" (This was one of my wife's GF's, and although the sentiment was not well placed, I did understand, as her ex was totally faithful to his AP's, and would not betray them by sleeping with his wife). I recommend going out with friends, restricting alcohol, and observing a cooling off period for about a week or so.
 
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Thanks. I actually going to my boyfriend's house and we're gonna have an early dinner (that he's going to cook for me!) and then just chill for the night. Nothing too grand but snuggling up on the couch and watching a movie sounds heavenly to me right now. I'm going to enjoy the fact that someone wants to snuggle up with me...unlike how it was in my marriage. And who knows...maybe I will get laid...hell, I'm divorced now...not guilt at all!!! LOL
 
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