Sooooo I have a bit of a tendency to chase emotionally unavailable women or women with avoidant styles of attachment. They aren't really giving their share in an emotional exchange and I more than overcompensate.
Was speaking to a woman from my past and we were kinda rehashing details and I could feel her walls up. I really wanted an open and honest conversation about what happened between us and expressed that. "Can we please have an open and honest conversation...but could you take your walls down for just five minutes?"
She became flustered and stuttered.
"I've been so direct with you!" She snapped. "I don't know where this is coming from. You are making me so uncomfortable right now! So uncomfortable! I'm going to bed"
And then she hung up on me. She said she didn't know where this was coming from, but the night before when she and I had spoken, had admitted to being emotionally unavailable.
Did I violate a boundary by asking to take down her walls? Would I have ever received a balanced emotional exchange with her? Why the heck am I so open with thee kinda women?
I asked her to take her walls down in a very kind voice and she knows me well enough, but she snapped at me in anger. It felt like she was talking down to me as a subordinate.
Why in the hell do I keep being attracted to these kinda women?
Was speaking to a woman from my past and we were kinda rehashing details and I could feel her walls up. I really wanted an open and honest conversation about what happened between us and expressed that. "Can we please have an open and honest conversation...but could you take your walls down for just five minutes?"
She became flustered and stuttered.
"I've been so direct with you!" She snapped. "I don't know where this is coming from. You are making me so uncomfortable right now! So uncomfortable! I'm going to bed"
And then she hung up on me. She said she didn't know where this was coming from, but the night before when she and I had spoken, had admitted to being emotionally unavailable.
Did I violate a boundary by asking to take down her walls? Would I have ever received a balanced emotional exchange with her? Why the heck am I so open with thee kinda women?
I asked her to take her walls down in a very kind voice and she knows me well enough, but she snapped at me in anger. It felt like she was talking down to me as a subordinate.
Why in the hell do I keep being attracted to these kinda women?