has a couple of threads about men's attraction to women's bodies, based on weight/fitness. I am wondering about the women's feelings about their men's bodies.
For myself...yes, it matters. Though what I find attractive and call "hot" may not be what others view as attractive and "hot", so it is still a relative thing.
I have a cousin who is a total hard body and fitness enthusiast. She has washboard abs. She wants a guy who is at least as fit as she is. She was dating a guy for awhile who was in pretty good shape when they met but then started quickly gaining weight (apparently he had just lost a lot before they met and was then gaining it back). It all went to his gut. He retained his big biceps, thighs, and other things she liked about his body...but now he also had this gut. He had not had visible abs in the beginning but he didn't have a gut, either, so she was ok with it. He had said he was still losing and she was hopeful that his mid section would continue losing as well. The opposite happened instead. They broke up. Though it was for other reasons too, she knows she would have never been ok with him long term if he she to keep looking at that gut.
On the thread in the mens sections, @bandit.45
said "Depends on where on the anatomy the weight gain occurs. If it is distributed to the right areas I have little complaint. Beer guts? No
I had to chuckle because, do guys actually think that women ARE ok with beer guts on men? But yet we shouldn't expect a man to be attracted to us if we have a similar gut? Why would that be?
My cousin said at one point she said something similar to her then boyfriend. He was telling her he loved her body and she was saying she wished he could get his body into better shape for her, too (after he had been gaining his gut back). He got his feelings all hurt about this. She said "well you love my body because it is so fit, why wouldn't I feel the same way? If I had a gut like you do, do you still think you would be as attracted to me?" She said she saw his face visibly cringe when he imagined her having a gut like he does. Yet....he got his feelings hurt when she wasn't attracted to HIS gut?
Now...I know many women don't mind a gut on a man or a bit of softness. Many men don't mind this either. But generally speaking, it would seem that men hold women to a higher physical standard than they hold themselves, and yet don't see this as a double standard. Maybe these guys don't actually expect a woman to need to feel physical attraction anyway, or that we somehow "can't see" a huge gut? Even though, the same men most certainly would see a huge gut and find it unattractive.
Attraction matters a lot to me, and my man's physique is a huge part of this. Again I'm not my cousin. I have a healthy amount of body fat and I find a healthy amount of fat to be ok on a partner. But a "healthy amount" is very little, IMO. And a huge increase in fat weight would definitely make me loose attraction. A huge increase in muscle weight would most likely make me more attracted....though there is a line of "too much". Though my current boyfriend would never be a muscle head like that so no worries there.