Re: The need to talk, constantly?
Because they're teenagers! LOL. I'm still in my twenties so it wasn't that long ago that my friends and I would get the annoying stares and exasperated looks from all of our yapping. No, it wasn't because we were talking about boys, or ****ty girls, or speaking too loud or using expletives - we were convent girls so we knew not to say anything in public that could get us in trouble with the sisters.
We had few worries, we were excited about growing up and the freedoms that came with it, excited about the world in general, everything still seemed so new and interesting, we were slowly finding out who we were and where we fit in, we thought we were so important and understood things that grown ups had no clue about, we were realizing that we had a voice, that we had opinions, differences etc etc.
I was this bubbly person with my friends and their parents, and the exact opposite (a robot, according to my mom who pleaded with me at one time to speak up more) at home. There I said absolutely nothing beyond yes please, no thanks, the daily greetings and curt responses to questions asked of me. I grew in an abusive home where kids were seen and not heard. Yet my parents couldn't figure out why, as we got older, we never had anything to say about our day or an opinion to add when they asked. It added a somber ambiance to an already depressing environment.
I can understand its frustrating but I would take a bubbly teenager over one who has little to nothing to say or is rude af, any day. It's a sign that they feel comfortable around you, they can trust you and their voices are valued.
That doesn't mean that you can't put them to sit down and explain that sometimes you need some quiet time. That not because you don't have anything to add means you're being moody or are in a bad mood. That in the very same way you can appreciate they enjoy conversing, they should respect your little moments of peace. That now that they're aware that it's natural to not always have something to say, they can look around and notice others who are just like you. Perhaps even some of their own friends.
Just talk to them and be straight up OP.
keke, after reading
of your various posts I'm amazed you were a convent girl !
Last edited by jlg07; 04-16-2017 at 05:14 PM.