Re: Is oral a given for most?
A serious blowjob is both a signal of attraction and a signal of willingness to make an effort.
A refusal is a signal of the inverse. Ignore this at your peril.
Itís strong indication of attraction. Itís well documented that feelings of disgust go away when aroused - meeting if youíre feeling horny and attracted to your partner, a penis or semen or vaginal fluids are gong to not be disgusting.
An unwillingness to go down is a sign theyíre likely just not that attracted to you.
Itís also a marker for conservative sexual attitudes, laziness, anxiety, etc., etc, all of which are reasons to move along when evaluating a new partner.
Fundamentally, why would you want to invest time and energy into a new relationship where youíve been given a clear sign they are just not that into you?
And even if maybe theyíre not super into it, but if youíre asking and so they know itís important to you, so then... why couldnít they just do it, right?
Why would you want to invest in someone who wonít got out of their comfort zone and make an effort at something thatís important to you?
People who canít get out of their comfort zone and make a effort? Next!