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post #16 of 108 (permalink) Old 01-04-2020, 11:46 PM
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Re: How many women will never ever perform oral sex on a man, why?

Well... in my first marriage I totally hated it! he had poor hygiene and didn't groom properly.
In my second marriage when the love was there and we were connected on that level... I loved being the giver!

Never cared about getting my rocks off, I just truly enjoyed doing it period. For the longest time that was our number one go to... I mean what guy doesn't want that?

I think it all just depends on the woman and what kind of life she has endured when it comes to Sex and all that goes with it.


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Re: How many women will never ever perform oral sex on a man, why?

I like giving oral, but I'm picky. I've had my share of partners, but have given oral to only a handful of them. For me, it's an attraction thing. If I'm very highly attracted I want to give provided my partner is hygienic. If I'm less attracted it's not something that really appeals.

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Re: How many women will never ever perform oral sex on a man, why?

I will speak for my wife who is not here to speak for herself.

If she has ever given it to anyone, I don't know about it, and I highly doubt it. She finds the whole concept of oral sex, male or female, intensely disgusting. As in just the thought of it makes her a little sick to her stomach.

Sort of like how I feel about Brussels sprouts.
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Re: How many women will never ever perform oral sex on a man, why?

Just seeing this thread now. I work with a bunch of women who have never and will never either perform or receive oral sex and they are NOT shy about their preference. One woman acts like anyone who is into that is an absolute freak of nature and needs psychiatric help. She once had a patient's partner ask if oral sex was okay since PIV was not safe in the pregnancy. I thought it was a good question. She came out of the room all freaked out an announced how disgusting the guy was and that *that* particular act was not happening in her marriage as if that made her a much more worthwhile human being. LOL

I think they all just think it's completely disgusting and only *****s do it. I feel badly for their husbands.

I once told them they have no idea what they are missing and they should give it a try. I think they think I'm a pervert now. And they don't even know yet that I almost married a guy who isn't white!!
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Just seeing this thread now. I work with a bunch of women who have never and will never either perform or receive oral sex and they are NOT shy about their preference. One woman acts like anyone who is into that is an absolute freak of nature and needs psychiatric help. She once had a patient's partner ask if oral sex was okay since PIV was not safe in the pregnancy. I thought it was a good question. She came out of the room all freaked out an announced how disgusting the guy was and that *that* particular act was not happening in her marriage as if that made her a much more worthwhile human being. LOL

I think they all just think it's completely disgusting and only *****s do it. I feel badly for their husbands.

I once told them they have no idea what they are missing and they should give it a try. I think they think I'm a pervert now. And they don't even know yet that I almost married a guy who isn't white!!
This is the other "far end" of the spectrum I was believing, just my opinion, that would come out and provide a highlight of those who "well, I certainly never would etc etc". !!
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Just seeing this thread now. I work with a bunch of women who have never and will never either perform or receive oral sex and they are NOT shy about their preference. One woman acts like anyone who is into that is an absolute freak of nature and needs psychiatric help. She once had a patient's partner ask if oral sex was okay since PIV was not safe in the pregnancy. I thought it was a good question. She came out of the room all freaked out an announced how disgusting the guy was and that *that* particular act was not happening in her marriage as if that made her a much more worthwhile human being. LOL

I think they all just think it's completely disgusting and only *****s do it. I feel badly for their husbands.

I once told them they have no idea what they are missing and they should give it a try. I think they think I'm a pervert now. And they don't even know yet that I almost married a guy who isn't white!! <a href="https://talkaboutmarriage.com/images/TAMarriage_2015/smilies/tango_face_surprise.png" border="0" alt="" title="EEK! Surprise!" >:-)</a>
You keep opening like a flower LOL

I have met women who have refused to give oral but never have met any the way you described. I think I would actually laugh out loud if I heard them
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You keep opening like a flower LOL

I have met women who have refused to give oral but never have met any the way you described. I think I would actually laugh out loud if I heard them
It can be pretty entertaining at times I must admit.
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Re: How many women will never ever perform oral sex on a man, why?

I must be the opposite of some. It's my fave sexual act.
I like giving oral....don't much care for getting it. If he's down there on me, I'm doing it to please him.

I get more pleasure giving it and that's why I do it. Seems to be win win for the guy if he likes getting it. Only issues arise if I find a man who loves giving it....and I'm not interested in getting it. It's messy, slobbery and I can get myself off much better while giving it.
But that's just me. I have a couple of stipulations though: keeping it shaved makes it sooo much better for both of us and it's going to be washed first.
When I tell my guy to "go wash", he knows what's about to happen

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Re: How many women will never ever perform oral sex on a man, why?

Along and along there seem some details coming out that there are certain women (that may make up groups?) that won't even consider it but the reasons why, actually, really why they won't isn't broached yet.

There are some physical justifications (as in my gag reflex will never allow it etc) that will be used, and some of that will be reality.

But some of those justifications will be used as a convenient crutch to deflect from real reasons just imho.

Unless I missed it I've seen no reasons that start with "because it makes me feel..." or "I don't feel my husband...(pick one) deserves it" or other feelings based reasons why a woman won't try or do it regularly. While in some cases a man still does oral on her.

There are discussions "out there" that advise women do or don't do many things because of feelings based wayfinding, I'm trying to be more educated in that area.
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Re: How many women will never ever perform oral sex on a man, why?

If I'm attracted to a guy and I like/respect him I'm happy to give. I don't care to do it to completion though....not because I have any particular issue with it but because I find it pretty arousing and don't want things to end there.

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Along and along there seem some details coming out that there are certain women (that may make up groups?) that won't even consider it but the reasons why, actually, really why they won't isn't broached yet.

There are some physical justifications (as in my gag reflex will never allow it etc) that will be used, and some of that will be reality.

But some of those justifications will be used as a convenient crutch to deflect from real reasons just imho.

Unless I missed it I've seen no reasons that start with "because it makes me feel..." or "I don't feel my husband...(pick one) deserves it" or other feelings based reasons why a woman won't try or do it regularly. While in some cases a man still does oral on her.

There are discussions "out there" that advise women do or don't do many things because of feelings based wayfinding, I'm trying to be more educated in that area.

The women I mentioned above are pretty much in agreement that it is dirty, disgusting, and only a woman with no self respect would do it or receive it. Those are their reasons. They are all older, early to mid 60's and were virgins when they married and are still married to the same man. It might be a generational thing.
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Re: How many women will never ever perform oral sex on a man, why?

My wife used to think that women giving oral to men was degrading / disgusting. Then for some reason a couple of years ago she started doing it a bit, not does it frequently (in the very infrequent occasions that we have sex at all).

For the discussion it may be worth separating unreciprocated oral, and oral along with other mutual activities.
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Good to know there are women out there like this. I am about to embark on the dating scene again and I will add this to my list of interview questions. If the answer is no, or no to completion....next!
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Just seeing this thread now. I work with a bunch of women who have never and will never either perform or receive oral sex and they are NOT shy about their preference. One woman acts like anyone who is into that is an absolute freak of nature and needs psychiatric help. She once had a patient's partner ask if oral sex was okay since PIV was not safe in the pregnancy. I thought it was a good question. She came out of the room all freaked out an announced how disgusting the guy was and that *that* particular act was not happening in her marriage as if that made her a much more worthwhile human being. LOL

I think they all just think it's completely disgusting and only *****s do it. I feel badly for their husbands.

I once told them they have no idea what they are missing and they should give it a try. I think they think I'm a pervert now. And they don't even know yet that I almost married a guy who isn't white!! <a href="https://talkaboutmarriage.com/images/TAMarriage_2015/smilies/tango_face_surprise.png" border="0" alt="" title="EEK! Surprise!" >:-)</a>
I was watching one of those murder mystery shows where the victim was Amish. Her Amish husband had her murdered because she would not perform oral sex. Apparently that's taboo in that religious sect. I wonder how many of your coworkers are from highly religious backgrounds.
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Good to know there are women out there like this. I am about to embark on the dating scene again and I will add this to my list of interview questions. If the answer is no, or no to completion....next!
I don't know if you have to explicitly ask about the oral sex but definitely mention your desire for someone who does it to completion. I am one of those women who does not like semen in her mouth so knowing up front that this is a deal breaker is a very good thing. Allows both people to not waste time. Sexual compatibility is crucial.
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