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post #31 of 108 (permalink) Old 01-14-2020, 10:58 AM
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The women I mentioned above are pretty much in agreement that it is dirty, disgusting, and only a woman with no self respect would do it or receive it. Those are their reasons. They are all older, early to mid 60's and were virgins when they married and are still married to the same man. It might be a generational thing.
There was a time when men wouldn't dream of asking their wife for something like oral. Hell, guys wouldn't marry women who did stuff like that....not the kind of woman you took home to your mother.

That's what prostitutes were for. Wives weren't even expected to enjoy anything....only to provide access. And women were taught that sex was one of the few weapons they had so best to use it as such.

I'm glad those days are gone. Oral is far more intimate then intercourse, IMO, and as such as great for couple intimacy. Mutually enjoyable sex is great!

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Good to know there are women out there like this. I am about to embark on the dating scene again and I will add this to my list of interview questions. If the answer is no, or no to completion....next!
I don't know if you have to explicitly ask about the oral sex but definitely mention your desire for someone who does it to completion. I am one of those women who does not like semen in her mouth so knowing up front that this is a deal breaker is a very good thing. Allows both people to not waste time. Sexual compatibility is crucial.
I plan on being very picky when it comes to sex. I’ve reached the age that having kids won’t be an issue, another marriage killer I can avoid.
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There was a time when men wouldn't dream of asking their wife for something like oral. Hell, guys wouldn't marry women who did stuff like that....not the kind of woman you took home to your mother.

That's what prostitutes were for. Wives weren't even expected to enjoy anything....only to provide access. And women were taught that sex was one of the few weapons they had so best to use it as such.

I'm glad those days are gone. Oral is far more intimate then intercourse, IMO, and as such as great for couple intimacy. Mutually enjoyable sex is great!
Pls see both bolded recaps.

I'm in absolute agreement!

Imho though, in many cases, the sex as a weapon thing could still be in the "is taught" category even in today's world.

Some older women still don't see how less that applies to a man as he reaches a mature age and realizes he's responsible for tolerating or not a woman who repetitively employs that strategy.

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The women I mentioned above are pretty much in agreement that it is dirty, disgusting, and only a woman with no self respect would do it or receive it. Those are their reasons. They are all older, early to mid 60's and were virgins when they married and are still married to the same man. It might be a generational thing.
Nah, I'm in that age group, oral has always been on the menu. I think it's more of a "bodies are icky" thing, which is a sad attitude but some people (of all ages) are conditioned as such.
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Good to know there are women out there like this. I am about to embark on the dating scene again and I will add this to my list of interview questions. If the answer is no, or no to completion....next!
Interview questions? Perhaps I'm misunderstanding you but tread carefully with that question and any other question pertaining to sex with a woman you haven't met or know. I've had the question....and follow up questions got him blocked. It cames off even worse than a "nice rack" comment.

I wouldn't consider it a question to ask right of way of any person unless they are the one who brings it up- and it's definitely not your right to know the sexual preferences of a stranger.

You're trying to date other human beings...and they also get to decide about YOUR compatibility, too. A man who is assuming gets crossed off my list quickly.

Do what you want but since you're "jumping back into the scene" I commented.

Yeah I like giving a blow job but I sure as hell ain't just handing them out to just anyone that asks for one.

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The mouth was designed for many things and kissing, caressing and oral sex are among them.

You are talking with an established theologian with easy access to the original Hebrew and Greek.

I have had to correct more than one minister about the meaning of certain scriptures.

The Bible is pretty descriptive about sex in several places.
No sir - just because you have studied the Bible doesn't mean that what you take from it is true.

The reality is that if our bodies were designed by anything other than random variation moderated by reproductive success the outcome would be considered incompetent at best.

Only a corrupt town-planner would site the pleasure gardens next to the sewage outfall. No four year old would create an entirely unnecessary risk of choking by confusing our air and food/water tubing etc. etc. etc..

Something can be useful in areas other than that which it evolved for - nothing wrong with winking on occasion - but that's not why we have eyes.

Being a theologian, however erudite, does not make one an expert on the human body any more than being an expert on iron-founding leads to competence at ballet.

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I don't think I ever had a sexual relationship which involved hands inside clothes where the lady did not perform oral sex. (Though I did have one very elegant refusal - which was subsequently withdrawn). I never requested it and, as was said elsewhere, never understood why anyone should be happy to do it - but I don't recall ever saying no.

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What? That's my favorite thing to do. JK! lol It's not my favorite thing, but I like to give my husband pleasure.

I actually like giving more than receiving. He is great at bringing me to pleasure with oral sex, but it takes me a while to relax as opposed to other positions and methods.

If a woman doesn't want to ever give oral sex, I suppose that is up to her. No one should be forced to perform sex acts they don't like, and there's nothing wrong with anyone who doesn't like to do certain things.

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I plan on being very picky when it comes to sex. I’ve reached the age that having kids won’t be an issue, another marriage killer I can avoid.
You'll have to post your experiences on the singles thread. I am not sure your age but I don't think you'll have to worry about women interested in having kids or remarriage in the over 40 crowd. If you are interested in dating under 40 then I advise you to get a vasectomy before entering the dating scene so you don't end up an oopsie daddy.
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Good to know there are women out there like this. I am about to embark on the dating scene again and I will add this to my list of interview questions. If the answer is no, or no to completion....next!
It's already on the pre-screen list!
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No sir - just because you have studied the Bible doesn't mean that what you take from it is true.

The reality is that if our bodies were designed by anything other than random variation moderated by reproductive success the outcome would be considered incompetent at best.

Only a corrupt town-planner would site the pleasure gardens next to the sewage outfall. No four year old would create an entirely unnecessary risk of choking by confusing our air and food/water tubing etc. etc. etc..

Something can be useful in areas other than that which it evolved for - nothing wrong with winking on occasion - but that's not why we have eyes.

Being a theologian, however erudite, does not make one an expert on the human body any more than being an expert on iron-founding leads to competence at ballet.

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I don't think I ever had a sexual relationship which involved hands inside clothes where the lady did not perform oral sex. (Though I did have one very elegant refusal - which was subsequently withdrawn). I never requested it and, as was said elsewhere, never understood why anyone should be happy to do it - but I don't recall ever saying no.
I'm sure you can comprehend that the post you quoted was in no way aimed at you or anyone outside of a very exclusive group. Taking this up with me is like a citizen of New Zealand arguing traffic laws in Russia.

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Re: How many women will never ever perform oral sex on a man, why?

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Good to know there are women out there like this. I am about to embark on the dating scene again and I will add this to my list of interview questions. If the answer is no, or no to completion....next!
Maybe you could ask for references.

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You'll have to post your experiences on the singles thread. I am not sure your age but I don't think you'll have to worry about women interested in having kids or remarriage in the over 40 crowd. If you are interested in dating under 40 then I advise you to get a vasectomy before entering the dating scene so you don't end up an oopsie daddy.
I’m 48. I’ve been fixed for 5 years, so anyone wanting kids is an automatic no. I’m still under the same roof as stbx, so there’s that. The “interview questions” was not to be taken literally. However, I know what I want and will take a hard pass on anyone that thinks sex is disgusting, transactional (quid pro quo), a favor, something earned or weaponized. If they are not into it, I won’t be into them.
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Nah, I'm in that age group, oral has always been on the menu. I think it's more of a "bodies are icky" thing, which is a sad attitude but some people (of all ages) are conditioned as such.
There is a certain irony that some here believe those in their 60s are going to be prudish due to their upbringing... the "sexual revolution" pretty much without question began in the 60s and ran strongly through the early 70s at least. Those of us in our 60s now? That's when we came of age.
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Re: How many women will never ever perform oral sex on a man, why?

It's a bit unclear why my wife won't provide oral. She doesn't "like" it. And she complains that manual stimulation is too hard for her hands (arthritis). It could be a subset of other issues in the process of being resolved, basically more guilt about sex and as you move away from what's "required" (the minimum that consulting adults can do and be called "having sex with your husband or wife") guilt becomes an increasingly-greater issue.

She did go along with "manual" (ok, a hand job) a couple weeks ago, and with some help from me, it worked. I found a way to actually do the hard part while she got credit for it, if that makes sense.

So maybe part of the issue is simply that it's too much work? And in the case of being submissive to oral (performed on a guy) it can be an almost violent and extraordinarily-selfish-appearing act. Grabbing hair and pulling someone down on you in a way they have to learn not to choke? I think it would be really easy for a woman to get turned off by that if she went into it not being comfortable.
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