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post #46 of 108 (permalink) Old 01-14-2020, 07:14 PM
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I'm sure you can comprehend that the post you quoted was in no way aimed at you or anyone outside of a very exclusive group. Taking this up with me is like a citizen of New Zealand arguing traffic laws in Russia.
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You wrote a general post which included "I wouldn't be with a woman who didn't realize that aspect of what a mouth was designed to do."

@Diana7 responded - starting with "To be honest the mouth wasn't actually designed for sex, the genitals were."

and you replied as I quoted.

I'm possibly a little simple but my comprehension quotient is clearly inadequate. What "very exclusive group" were you aiming at, and how on earth was I to realise that an unqualified post was not intended for general consumption?

PS - Are you suggesting that The Bible is comparable to the Russian equivalent of "The Road Traffic Acts 1988"? Or are you talking of a discussion in Russia about the traffic laws of New Zealand? And who is the New Zealander arguing (why argue?) with - another Kiwi or a Russian? I think we should be told.


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I’m 48. I’ve been fixed for 5 years, so anyone wanting kids is an automatic no.
Good decision. The dating world is your oyster.

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I’m still under the same roof as stbx, so there’s that. The “interview questions” was not to be taken literally. However, I know what I want and will take a hard pass on anyone that thinks sex is disgusting, transactional (quid pro quo), a favor, something earned or weaponized. If they are not into it, I won’t be into them.
I know some may disagree but I think asking questions to determine compatibility (religion, politics, sexual) should be done earlier rather than later, especially for things you consider to be deal breakers. The worse thing to happen is two people avoid the difficult discussions, get to know each other well, like each other but then find out their deal breakers don't jive. If it's really important to you then make sure you mention it early.
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Re: How many women will never ever perform oral sex on a man, why?

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Its not my favourite thing but its not an issue for us because my husband much prefers PIV to oral anyway. Also there is a LOT that you can do with your hands.

As to why? The same reason that people prefer anything over something else in life, its a preference. Like I prefer some foods to others. No particular reason, but I do think that women have a perfectly good vagina that is specifically designed for the penis in sex, whereas a mouth isn't designed to stretch etc.
What?! Every part of the human body, that involves muscle/skin/dermis, is designed to stretch and flex, even your internal organs do so.
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You wrote a general post which included "I wouldn't be with a woman who didn't realize that aspect of what a mouth was designed to do."

@Diana7 responded - starting with "To be honest the mouth wasn't actually designed for sex, the genitals were."

and you replied as I quoted.

I'm possibly a little simple but my comprehension quotient is clearly inadequate. What "very exclusive group" were you aiming at, and how on earth was I to realise that an unqualified post was not intended for general consumption?

PS - Are you suggesting that The Bible is comparable to the Russian equivalent of "The Road Traffic Acts 1988"? Or are you talking of a discussion in Russia about the traffic laws of New Zealand? And who is the New Zealander arguing (why argue?) with - another Kiwi or a Russian? I think we should be told.
My response to Diana7 was specifically for her as we are part of a community that you are not.
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My response to Diana7 was specifically for her as we are part of a community that you are not.
I didn't realise that.

When I wish to convey something that is specific to an individual I use a PM.

Since you posted en clair, and by doing so potentially misled many readers, I assumed a generally visible correction to be appropriate.

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I didn't realise that.

When I wish to convey something that is specific to an individual I use a PM.

Since you posted en clair, and by doing so potentially misled many readers, I assumed a generally visible correction to be appropriate.
LoL. You can update your data on this barbarian now. When I quote an individual, I'm actually responding to them and what they said in that quote specifically and not making a statement to everyone on the thread.

I enjoyed your sense of humor in the post I liked BTW.
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LoL. You can update your data on this barbarian now. When I quote an individual, I'm actually responding to them and what they said in that quote specifically and not making a statement to everyone on the thread.

I enjoyed your sense of humor in the post I liked BTW.
Thanks - by the same token; if someone - anyone - posts something I see that can be generally read and I feel is inappropriate, demeaning and/or likely to mislead I will offer my alternative to the same, albeit indeterminate, readership.

It doesn't matter that I convince people that I'm right - sometimes I'm not - it does, IMO, matter that they know that there are no ideas that may not be challenged. Maybe it encourages some people to think critically - about my views as well as the views of others.

I call it morality/respect/duty - whatever.

Others may call it something rather different - perhaps what they call it says more about them than about me.

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The women I mentioned above are pretty much in agreement that it is dirty, disgusting, and only a woman with no self respect would do it or receive it. Those are their reasons. They are all older, early to mid 60's and were virgins when they married and are still married to the same man. It might be a generational thing.
Oddly enough, there seems to be many threads in this forum in which wives who declared how "disgusting" it is with their husbands were only too eager to perform it on their affair partner.
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Oddly enough, there seems to be many threads in this forum in which wives who declared how "disgusting" it is with their husbands were only too eager to perform it on their affair partner.
And....we're reminded of another whole facet on this multi-pronged topic.

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PS I just reread my response.

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There was a time when men wouldn't dream of asking their wife for something like oral. Hell, guys wouldn't marry women who did stuff like that....not the kind of woman you took home to your mother.

That's what prostitutes were for. Wives weren't even expected to enjoy anything....only to provide access. And women were taught that sex was one of the few weapons they had so best to use it as such.

I'm glad those days are gone. Oral is far more intimate then intercourse, IMO, and as such as great for couple intimacy. Mutually enjoyable sex is great!
Agree.

Sadly many BOYS, and Im using that word on purpose, ruin oral for many men. How many of us have known someone that has said they really didnt have sex with the guy. You know just gave him a blow job (likely to get him to shut up) This is often at the guys pleading. "Come on, if you wont put out, at least a blow job".
I personally knew a guy who thought he didnt cheat on his girlfriend when he "only" got a blow job for another woman.
Have most here seen the movie Clerks? Funny movie but a point in it where his girlfriend blowing 100 guys or whatever wasnt seen as a big deal.
I myself have had to deal with the after effects of this attitude in my marriage. Paying the price for others minimizing oral sex as just a minor thing you do to get someone off. So not surprising that some view it as gross or an undesirable thing to do.

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Agree.

Sadly many BOYS, and Im using that word on purpose, ruin oral for many men. How many of us have known someone that has said they really didnt have sex with the guy. You know just gave him a blow job (likely to get him to shut up) This is often at the guys pleading. "Come on, if you wont put out, at least a blow job".
I personally knew a guy who thought he didnt cheat on his girlfriend when he "only" got a blow job for another woman.
Have most here seen the movie Clerks? Funny movie but a point in it where his girlfriend blowing 100 guys or whatever wasnt seen as a big deal.
I myself have had to deal with the after effects of this attitude in my marriage. Paying the price for others minimizing oral sex as just a minor thing you do to get someone off. So not surprising that some view it as gross or an undesirable thing to do.
This is a great point.

For me anyway, up until the famous "I did not have sex with that woman" statement it did not occur to me that others (mistakenly imo) may not consider a BJ as a sex act.

I mean, it does involve intimate contact with genetalia after all.
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Agree.

Sadly many BOYS, and Im using that word on purpose, ruin oral for many men. How many of us have known someone that has said they really didnt have sex with the guy. You know just gave him a blow job (likely to get him to shut up) This is often at the guys pleading. "Come on, if you wont put out, at least a blow job".
I personally knew a guy who thought he didnt cheat on his girlfriend when he "only" got a blow job for another woman.
Have most here seen the movie Clerks? Funny movie but a point in it where his girlfriend blowing 100 guys or whatever wasnt seen as a big deal.
I myself have had to deal with the after effects of this attitude in my marriage. Paying the price for others minimizing oral sex as just a minor thing you do to get someone off. So not surprising that some view it as gross or an undesirable thing to do.

I know a woman who had an affair but made the argument that she only gave him a blow job. I believe her, and her husband knows (let's just say his hands weren't clean either), but I always felt like that was worse than intercourse.

You can have intercourse with anyone and look the other way, but oral is up close and personal.
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I know a woman who had an affair but made the argument that she only gave him a blow job. I believe her, and her husband knows (let's just say his hands weren't clean either), but I always felt like that was worse than intercourse.

You can have intercourse with anyone and look the other way, but oral is up close and personal.
I feel the opposite. I think of intercourse as much more intimate and personal with much more eye contact. Maybe it's because of the old joke "once you close your eyes you can pretend it's anybody doing it to you."
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