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Rejection

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I think the hardest part of being left is that my wife of 17 years whom I loved and cherished for so long would rather see her son half the time, pay me $200+ a month and give up any rights to the matrimonial home(her choice) and all savings we had (her choice) then spend another second with me.

You may know my story from the going through separation/divorce forum but it doesn't really matter. Everyone here knows how it feels to be left and that feeling of rejection and pain. Most days I'm doing well but today it hit home a bit. I find it very hard when I'm out and watch families interacting with each other. I wonder if she watches them too and ever feels......well anything. We were that family up until she said she needed space. Blind sided is an understatement. We were house hunting, when I asked if she saw the house for sale I emailed to her. "I needed to talk to you about that" is what she said.

I'm glad I never got the ILYBINILWY speech from her. It was always I love you with long tight hugs, I just need space.....and now space and her are a couple...lol. I presume she left me for another guy but don't necessarily have proof. I just figured if you have a guy over and cook him dinner after just 4 months out of a long term relationship I would think they knew each other well before that. We don't talk at all anymore and she lives a 1 min drive away. Neither of us goes to the door to drop off our son, we just park the car and he jumps out.....very sad really. The night before she "officially" left we were making Christmas and summer vacation plans. I don't think I will really ever understand, I guess that is just the type of person I married. Whenever someone outside of our marriage peeked my interest in any way I shut it down immediately in my head as I knew the only women I ever needed was my love and best friend at home. Apparently she didn't do the same.

I wonder if she will ever regret it, as most people wonder who have been left for another person.
That feeling of not being good enough will take some time to get over while she is happy (I presume) with her new guy. She never skipped a beat, just went from me (17 years) to him. Who does that....well I guess a lot of people do or there would be no need for this forum.

Just feeling sorry for myself I guess......pity party today and your all invited!!
 
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