It is the rare blooming flower that one seeks in life. Unfortunately your male friends are not to far off the mark, a lot of men just are not patient enough to wait for sex anymore. With the ease that society has moved into the hook-up culture, it can be difficult to find a committed person willing to wait anymore. Add to that all the discussion that I see about men avoiding marriage anymore, it is a hard road to navigate.
It may be that, but it may also be that sexuality, as a whole, is much more talked about these days.
I've never had a true ONS, a FWB, or any kind of 'hook up' in my life. I've had casual sex (with female friends) and relationship sex, and that's about it.
If I had to date again, I wouldn't wait that long, either. For one simple reason - compatibility.
As sex is an important part of a relationship for me (and many others, as we know), determining this compatibility relatively early on is not a bad thing at all. Quite the opposite - it's pretty smart, if you ask me.
I'm not talking 2nd or 3rd date (or any number of dates, really). Just the point that the two of you are evidently compatible in most other ways, and comfortable with one another. It's the logical next step, IMO.
If there's no compatibility in that aspect, it's no different than any other area that the two of you don't jive - provided it's important to one or both of you, of course. For some people, it's faaar down the line of importance, and mediocre sex is just fine. Even no sex, for some.
But in this particular case, sex IS important to him. So she already knows this out of the gate, which is good. If I were dating again, I'd make sure the person I was seeing, and interested in, knew this, too. And I'd expect the same from them, if the opposite were true (ie. didn't have much interest in sex).