What can I say I tend to tough it out even when I should throw in the towel (I should have divorced my X at year 5 not 15.5). Didnt really accept it. I coped with it. It put distance between us that didnt have to be there.
In my opinion, where you are probably at fault. Your friends tell you someone isn't good for you and you don't listen.
Now you have 1 or 2 types of friends. The one that give you the medicine, but at the very least they love you and knowing you they have an idea what will or wont work for you. Or the ones that smile and go with it, one way or another always giving bad or selfish advice.
- I certainly notice where you are coming from. What I have learned, is that a lot of relationships for whatever reason sound familiar, but each time there is there own particular twist or turn in the story. Another thing I have learned, is that good advice, is always good advice. Overall, I thought your advice was good. There is a reason why these "voices of doubt" can be in our head. It might have nothing to do with her fault, in my opinion.
- I know why I wait in relationships. That's like a huge huge huge issue that I am working through. I'll keep myself positive about it. I would encourage you to navigate the answer as to why you didn't break up with your first husband, and maybe this second relationship before going into any further level of commitment. (IF You haven't already remarried.) If you have, work on resolving your emotions about it, and give him the love you both deserve. As it seems at the very least he is genuine.