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post #1 of 1413 (permalink) Old 01-23-2018, 07:26 PM Thread Starter
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Singles of TAM 2018

The other two Singles thread have over a 1000 posts each. So I thought I would start one for the new year (about three weeks too late)
Here is my update for the new year:
I broke up with my most recent GF the day after Christmas. It was a mutual thing. I had been feeling like the walls were closing in and there were a few red flags that I had been trying to ignore. She said she just stopped feeling "it". We decided to part as friends, and have since done a few things and texted occasionally. In fact I am supposed to see her at a MeetUp on Thursday.
In the meantime, I have realized that I had been spending a lot of time doing relationship stuff and not enough time on me stuff. So I have taken this opportunity to refocus on me and my wants.
One of the things that I have realized about myself and what may have become an issue in my most recent relationship was this kernel of anger that still festers inside of me about how everything went down during my divorce. I realize that I really need to snuff that out so that I can begin to truly enjoy my new life. So that is one of the things I am working on.

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Ynot: Working through your anger is a great place to start. Relationships in the future will benefit from that being resolved.


My update: Still with the Older Man. Every time I decide to tell him lets be friends something happens to change my mind. Not sure what I am going to do. He still isnt involved with my kids except for sharing a meal or two. He does make me happy even if I cannot see ever living together or getting married. But I am not sure I want to do either of those in the future with anyone.

Work life is good. I have made some new friends and social life is improving.

2017 was a bad year but here's to 2018!
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I still have anger at times towards my XW and how I was treated but life is good mostly and still seeing my girlfriend and everything is progressing nicely.

Reading is something i do often on relationship advice and other peoples stories, i want to ensure I never put myself in the position I put myself with my XW but also not have that stop me from being in another good relationship.

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well I'm not single but I do like keeping up with you crazy kids. So I'm subscribing to this thread. People are still posting to the other one as well so it might be good to put a link to the new one and then lock the old one.

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The thread needs a kick start... hmm...

Well guys!

I was flirting with a married woman today, and I have no shame. Thinking of tapping her since she's been pretty full on.
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I guess I'll add to this thread. I had a great date last Sunday night ;-) and recently had a few totally hilarious online conversations with a couple of women. I'm almost thinking about posting them, but I'd hate to give up really good material that I might need in the future.
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The thread needs a kick start... hmm...

Well guys!

I was flirting with a married woman today, and I have no shame. Thinking of tapping her since she's been pretty full on.
Are you sure shame is the word you are looking for?

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I guess I'll add to this thread. I had a great date last Sunday night ;-) and recently had a few totally hilarious online conversations with a couple of women. I'm almost thinking about posting them, but I'd hate to give up really good material that I might need in the future.
Please post them!!
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Edit - in case I want to reuse this material later

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I have been messing around with OLD as well. Some very interesting conversations to say the least.
So I went out with a woman on a second date over the weekend. After seeing a band we stopped at another bar for a night cap, where we had the "conversation". As we were leaving she proceeds to tell me she has genital herpes. Ok, so that was a bucket of cold water on that night.
Today I was chatting with a 50 year old woman. She asked what defined me. Later I asked her. She said 'being a mother". Ok, so how many kids and how old are they? She told she had just one, he was 26 and she hopes he gets a full time job soon. She isn't the first woman I have met with mid-20's children still at home. I am beginning to wonder if keeping a kid around is a way to put off life.
OTOH, it has been fun working on my communication skills.

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So I went out with a woman on a second date over the weekend. After seeing a band we stopped at another bar for a night cap, where we had the "conversation". As we were leaving she proceeds to tell me she has genital herpes.
Ahhh yes, the gift that keeps on giving....
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Ahhh yes, the gift that keeps on giving....
I guess. She told me she got it from her ex who never told her. I have no reason to doubt her. Really I felt bad for her, she didn't ask for this to happen. I still declined to move forward, it appears that 1 out 6 people knowingly carry the virus. But it has been estimated that as many as 80% of us are carriers but have never had an outbreak or been tested.
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Whao there... 1 in 6 ?!
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Well guys!

I was flirting with a married woman today, and I have no shame. Thinking of tapping her since she's been pretty full on.
Along with no shame comes with no class.

Knowingly partisipating in ruining a marriage and maybe a family is vile.

Imo.

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