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post #1711 of 1719 (permalink) Old 01-05-2020, 06:19 PM
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Re: Singles of TAM 2019

What I loved about Cindy was I was never in a position that I had to guess who she was... she was herself from the first time we met and I loved the honesty that was presented in her incredibly outgoing way (I'm the more quiet one if you haven't guessed).

It was a trust I needed to confirm the love that was healthy for us both.

Cynthia has a point about knowing your audience, but there has to be some consistency with each group as well... this is where it becomes important to be you naturally each time.

Try not to second-guess yourself, don't be afraid of these missed connections, they are doing you a favor by identifying the right friendship groups, weeding out the casuals, and vetting honesty (for and in yourself) at the same time... keep on keepin' on being who you are.

Somebody out there is paying attention... consistency of your natural spirit is your friend.

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For those wondering, the 60 year old and I are not dating. He's not interested (his girlfriends / ex wife are all beautiful) and I accept that.

It's been a fun social holiday season but it's back to normal. I'm in hibernation mode. Maybe I'll take up scrapbooking again. I keep saying I'm going to get all of my digital pictures printed but that usually lasts a day and I'm bored.
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For those wondering, the 60 year old and I are not dating. He's not interested (his girlfriends / ex wife are all beautiful) and I accept that.
What on earth? Are you saying that you aren't beautiful enough? Did he tell you that?


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What on earth? Are you saying that you aren't beautiful enough? Did he tell you that?
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And if he DID say this, 1) he's a boor, and 2) you can do SOOO much better.

Any man who says he won't date a woman because she isn't beautiful enough is a walking piece of human excrement. He's not attracted to you, or you're not his type? Fine, we all have our physical preferences. But to tell you that you are not beautiful enough is a real **** move, and no guy who says that is worth your time.

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What on earth? Are you saying that you aren't beautiful enough? Did he tell you that?
I doubt that is what he said. I think Lila went there in her head.

BUT; if he did say that, I'm filing my nails to a point and taking off my earrings! No one disses our Lila!!

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And if he DID say this, 1) he's a boor, and 2) you can do SOOO much better.

Any man who says he won't date a woman because she isn't beautiful enough is a walking piece of human excrement. He's not attracted to you, or you're not his type? Fine, we all have our physical preferences. But to tell you that you are not beautiful enough is a real **** move, and no guy who says that is worth your time.
Oh no, no, no. Let me clear the confusion up. He never said anything like that. He's a VERY kind and polite person. I do think he's somewhat of a player and he's dating around (perfectly acceptable). I know someone who's known him for years. He told me about the beautiful exes.
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What on earth? Are you saying that you aren't beautiful enough? Did he tell you that?
I doubt that is what he said. I think Lila went there in her head.

BUT; if he did say that, I'm filing my nails to a point and taking off my earrings! No one disses our Lila!!
Yes to the bolded. I'm sure I don't fit his standard type physically based on what I know about him. But he does seem to enjoy my company. That's why I said we are staying friends.
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Hey, y'all, I started a new thread for 2020, if y'all want to take the convo over there.

https://talkaboutmarriage.com/life-a...l#post20061045

@Lila, you want to close this thread to new posts so we don't have simultaneous threads going?

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Hey, y'all, I started a new thread for 2020, if y'all want to take the convo over there.

https://talkaboutmarriage.com/life-a...l#post20061045

@Lila, you want to close this thread to new posts so we don't have simultaneous threads going?
Sure. I'll take care of it now.
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