Faithful Wife, I can definitely relate to you! LOL! I also applaud you for knowing what you want and not accepting anything different. I will never marry again, and I make this known right up front to all the men I've gone out with. However, you wouldn't believe how many men hear this and think it's a CHALLENGE!! They're like, "Challenge accepted!" and then I'm like, "NO. No-no-no-no-NOOOOOO!" They all think they can change my mind, and then get upset when they realize it ain't gonna happen! <a href="https://talkaboutmarriage.com/images/smilies/rofl.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Rofl" >:-)</a>
After everything I've been through (probably the same as many here have been through), I absolutely will not accept any bull****. I don't want a man with young kids because I've already raised mine, and I am definitely not interested AT ALL in helping to raise someone else's kids. At the same time, I basically don't have any family, so there is never any family drama coming from my side, and I don't want to deal with family drama from a man's side either. I also have a really good job, and sometimes it's hard to find men who also have a good job (comparable, at least). Geez, there are just soooooo many things I'm picky about! I am currently dating a much younger man, but he is basically "Mr. Right Now" even though we have been together for a while. He is way more into me than I am into him, and I actually need to cut him loose - - but that's a whole "'nother" story!
I want a committed relationship with someone, but I don't want to live with anyone, and I don't want to be around him 24/7 or even every day. I have good friends and we are always doing something, and I also love alone-time. Basically I want someone who adores me, but will also leave me the hell alone! Is that too much to ask?!!
Yes! You get it.
On bumble which is my main OLD site, the guys are pretty open about if they are looking for something serious or leads to marriage. So I just avoid them altogether. I understand their position and they should not compromise on what they want, either. Some people just really want that type of relationship so hopefully they match up with others who do too.
I haven’t had any trouble narrowing down the guys who want what I want also. There are lots of us. People who do want an exclusive connection but do not want a future commitment. We have our reasons.
I’m not going this direction because I want to keep my options open for someone better to come along. When I have a boyfriend, I’m all about him and all my girlfriend energy is all his. I just don’t have any wife energy anymore.
In my experience, a boyfriend is so much better than a husband anyway. I mean they are different things, but a boyfriend is all about the sweet stuff, none of the difficult stuff. I don’t bring my difficult stuff to them either. I have plenty of support in my life for the difficult things and don’t need a boyfriend to take any of that on.