I completely agree that it's about the psychological aspect - the habits and discontent that the apps have created.
It doesn't really matter how 'perfect' you are anymore.
For people who aren't already in stable, long-term relationships, whatever someone is offering, it likely won't be enough.
It's like relational gluttony - and definitely a consumer mindset about using and discarding other people.
People get what they think they want, but then after awhile, they don't want it anymore. So they get divorced again
, and get back into the dating pool again
It was surprising to go on a first date and discover that the man who'd put himself as divorced was still married. (x2)
It was shocking to go on a first date and discover that a different man had already been married and divorced 3 times. (x2)
It was appalling to discover that yet a different guy I'd gone on one date with was on the pediphile registry in my area.
There are just too many distractions in our world that I'm no longer willing to compete with.
I'm not gonna fight about the pornography, or the girl from high school who's now contacting you through fb, or the endless hookup sites that you're just 'curious' about, or the secret girlfriend you have in the next town, or the 20 year old at your office who you're flirting with.
I want a quiet, peaceful life, and I don't trust that I can have that with another person.
I think your question was rhetorical but I'll answer anyway. The "apps and whatnot" have actually made finding someone harder due to Paradox of Choice and the fallacy of abundance mentality. These are Psychological phenomena. Seems the more we use technology to make life easier, the harder they seem to get.