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post #16 of 56 (permalink) Old 10-24-2019, 06:35 PM
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Re: Down Sides of Dating You

i'm married, but when i was single;

1. i'm not tall and many women like tall.
2. i hate and don't want to do rough sex. i've heard some women like rough sex. forget it. i can only do 'love making'. that's all i know (and want to know).
3. money's not my thing. never was. achievement, yes. money, no.

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That can be a good thing if what you're interested in is a good topic. The life cycle of the fruit fly might not interest me but if you were studying something cool like a period in history, I'd love it.
I'm actually addicted to research.

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Okay @ConanHub: "Lipstick Lesbian" GO!!


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Okay @ConanHub: "Lipstick Lesbian" GO!!
Rushed for time but lesbians I approve of and understand.
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Okay @ConanHub: "Lipstick Lesbian" GO!!
You should have asked me!
I lived with two lesbians for years and one of them is my best friend.
The stories I could have told you......
But now Iím sulking because you asked Conan first.
So Iím saying nothing!

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There's a perks thread so this is the red flags one. What's the down side of dating you?
Who am I, who are we?

The upside is dating many beings at the same time, the downside is which one of us are you really kissing.

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out. The Lion in Winter. Invictus..By Will, Shall.
The Host, Rd is ill, any years left, remain now, in doubt? Red Dog is now lost to us.
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Downsides of dating me
  • I don't have much free time - let's meet up once a week?
  • I don't have much spare money
  • I like familiar places. If I like a restaurant, or a holiday destination, I'll always want to go back there every time. (On the other hand, this makes me a natural monogamist).
  • I am essentially serious. I find "fun" kind of boring.

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I'm actually addicted to research.

I have a hard time not thoroughly researching anything I don't know about.

If asked a question I don't know, in 10 minutes I will know more than 9 out of 10 normal people should.
I spent all my free time for two weeks researching the Voynich manuscript a few months ago. Drove my wife crazy.

I get fixated on something Iím passionate about. Could be GŲdelís incompleteness theorem, Joy Division, Tom Baker Doctor Who, Feynman lectures, the Meiji restoration, all kinds of things. Always have a side passion project!
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Okay @ConanHub: "Lipstick Lesbian" GO!!
I once almost got into a fist fight with a lipstick lesbian’s butch girlfriend.

Honestly, I didn’t know they were together. And she hit on me first! I even offered a threesome to try to make things better.

In retrospect, that last bit was probably a bad idea.
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Not so much a dating thing but an example of intensity.

I remember when my son told me he wanted to play football (age 10). Firstly I told him he could only play flag football until he was older, 13. He came of age and wanted to move on to tackle football. I got intense, told him he had to get stronger, faster, gain more endurance and get better at his skilled position. I took him to the park, put a backpack filled with sandbags and ran him through coordination and endurance drills, speed drills (he threw up his first day). I asked him you want to quit? He said no. Next drill, his back facing me I drilled the ball at him and yelled out ďballĒ. He was expected to turn around (quickly) and catch it. If he did not it would hit him and probably be painful. I asked again, ďyou want to quit?Ē He said no. We did this for a whole month before signing up. Intense? Kind of, but that is who I am. I am either all in or not at all.

Fast forward: my son just finished his senior year of football and lead their team in receiving & running yards and TDs. He was a starter since his sophomore year and a co-captain this year. He has several college offers. Although he is not interested in taking it to the pros, he does want to eventually work in sports management for a living. I think he too is a bit intense. I wonder if I did him a disservice in his future relationships.


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I can be unyielding, impatient, intolerant and unforgiving.
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I once almost got into a fist fight with a lipstick lesbianís butch girlfriend.

Honestly, I didnít know they were together. And she hit on me first! I even offered a threesome to try to make things better.

In retrospect, that last bit was probably a bad idea.


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You'd either have to be open to a non-exclusive casual dating scenario, possibly FWB, or willing to consider a polyamorous relationship (potentially long-term), because I'm not presently interested in monogamous relationships. Even with those major constraints, I still find some good prospects.

Love is an ideal thing; marriage is a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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I'm a redhead and I fit the stereotype very well...you don't want to see me angry. Sometimes going out sounds wonderful at 11am when you ask but by 8pm after my job and kids have sucked the life out of me I just want my pajamas and a cup of tea with a good tv show/movie. I do go, but I've lost a lot of my enthusiasm for it. I don't trust easily...it takes time, a lot of time for me to open up emotionally.
I hope you don't offend easily, but I am dating a red headed nurse right now, and I must say, she also fits the stereotype. But I am so laid back and easy going her anger is almost never directed at me. I just go to other room when I hear her on the phone verbally assaulting her ex-husband. Really glad he takes the beating instead of me LoL But yes....when she is angry its like being in the middle of a storm. But...often in the midst of that storm....she often ends up smiling or laughing at me in the middle of it, because she realizes she is over reacting, and then its like it never happened. I do wonder if it would be different if we became a blended family one day, but thats a long ways down the road if ever.
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When you come to the realization and have to acknowledge that I do in fact, know everything.

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