Gosh, reading this thread makes me think that there really is something wrong with me. Everybody seems to have met or know people who have met someone except me.
Ugh Lila, nooooooo!!! There is NOT something wrong with you!!!
You have high standards you are not willing to budge on and you should NOT budge on them!!!
But having high standards will mean you have a smaller pool of candidates.
Look - I can get a date
, easy. But I can't snap my fingers and create a match
for myself. Because, like you, I have high standards or in my case people might actually just call me picky and fussy and unrealistic.
But I would still rather be alone, even forever!, rather than lower my standards or settle in any way. I want to feel strong attraction and ultimate admiration and fondness for someone. If I lowered my standards, that person would be cheated out of having someone better than me who might love them the way they are. No one wants to be settled for.
You will find a match, Lila. It just takes time. In fact I have far more optimism that you will actually find a match than that I will! You are a way better type of woman than I am, you have so much more to offer, so much less baggage, and you are far healthier than me (physically but probably mentally, too!). My bets are on you finding your new great partner within the next 6 months.
And also I'm going to be a little bummed when you do find him because I know your new man is not going to let you come to Portland and hang out with me.