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post #61 of 813 (permalink) Old 01-12-2020, 12:16 AM
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What is it with you kids and gallstones?



I have seen more 40's w/stones in the last 2 years than I think I have in the previous 10...



I hope you didn't do all freeway? I can give you some great backroad routes Cindy and I have ridden if interested in the future when you head this direction past Glacier and Yellowstone.


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Im late of the party on the gifting thread. But for the record, any man who wants to get me a Peleton bike, gym membership or a high tech vacuum, will be worshipped not vilified.
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Also, Iím pretty sure I have gallstones. I mentioned in the old thread I had something going on and itís only getting worse. My doc has me doing an elimination diet but that hasnít helped at all. Itís getting to the point where Iím having trouble coping with the pain and vomiting. Time to tell my doc this is NOT a food sensitivity, not when a sneeze or cough or a bumpy road can set off an attack. Sooo, I see surgery in my near future.
I had my gallbladder out last February. It was such an easy recovery. I had been having attacks for quite a few months. Finally had such a severe one I ended up in the ER. Doctor said my recent weight loss caused me to build up too many stones. I also had a rare tumor inside. Glad it's gone!!! I was sore for a couple days, never took any narcotics, just used motrin and tylenol. Back to work in 2 weeks, would have been sooner but since I don't have desk job I had to wait until I could lift heavy stuff again. My advice is to go and get it done sooner rather than later...you'll be glad you did!!!

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I had my gallbladder out last February. It was such an easy recovery. I had been having attacks for quite a few months. Finally had such a severe one I ended up in the ER. Doctor said my recent weight loss caused me to build up too many stones. I also had a rare tumor inside. Glad it's gone!!! I was sore for a couple days, never took any narcotics, just used motrin and tylenol. Back to work in 2 weeks, would have been sooner but since I don't have desk job I had to wait until I could lift heavy stuff again. My advice is to go and get it done sooner rather than later...you'll be glad you did!!!

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Uh Oh... I hope that isn't a result of what I call the Divorce Diet! Best diet I've ever been on.
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Uh Oh... I hope that isn't a result of what I call the Divorce Diet! Best diet I've ever been on.
Nope. It was the result of a lot of hard work. I had gained 55lbs while I was partially paralyzed and pretty much bed ridden for about 18 months. STBXH couldn't or wouldn't cook and so it was all take out all the time and no exercise. Once I had my spinal surgery and could walk again I set to take that weight off again. I've lost 35 of it...been at a standstill for quite a while. Need to really get back at it.
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Nope. It was the result of a lot of hard work. I had gained 55lbs while I was partially paralyzed and pretty much bed ridden for about 18 months. STBXH couldn't or wouldn't cook and so it was all take out all the time and no exercise. Once I had my spinal surgery and could walk again I set to take that weight off again. I've lost 35 of it...been at a standstill for quite a while. Need to really get back at it.
I know how the standstill feels. I had a goal of another 10 lbs loss and can't quite make it happen.

Darn work lunches.
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I know how the standstill feels. I had a goal of another 10 lbs loss and can't quite make it happen.

Darn work lunches.
The standstill is my own fault, haven't been very good about meal planning, exercise, etc lately. I made a goal to start back up with the first of the year and bam...I've been sick since Christmas so eating well and exercising are the last things on my mind right now. I'll get there. Maybe I'll pull out some of my best recipes today and look for some new ones. I have gained back 6lbs and that's just not okay.

My problem is that in order to lose weight I have to eat all the time. Sounds crazy but my metabolism slows to nothing if I don't have breakfast, snack, lunch, snack, dinner, snack. It's not my natural way of eating...if I'm not thinking about it I'll have a snack at about noon and then dinner and nothing else. So to lose weight I have to plan a lot and it doesn't come naturally to me at all. It's a lot of work.
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Very late to the party too... thank you very much for including me, although not divorced or separated (at the moment). But we are, technically... not sure how much I'll be able to contribute, since I'm terrified of dating someone...
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I had my gallbladder out last February. It was such an easy recovery. I had been having attacks for quite a few months. Finally had such a severe one I ended up in the ER. Doctor said my recent weight loss caused me to build up too many stones. I also had a rare tumor inside. Glad it's gone!!! I was sore for a couple days, never took any narcotics, just used motrin and tylenol. Back to work in 2 weeks, would have been sooner but since I don't have desk job I had to wait until I could lift heavy stuff again. My advice is to go and get it done sooner rather than later...you'll be glad you did!!!

Good luck!!
Thanks for sharing your story NMJ! My ultrasound is Thursday and I'm soooo hoping they find something so this can be resolved. I'm the type who also doesn't usually need meds after minor surgeries, so good to know you did well without them. I have a desk job so I'm hoping I can return to work ASAP.
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I hope you didn't do all freeway? I can give you some great backroad routes Cindy and I have ridden if interested in the future when you head this direction past Glacier and Yellowstone.
I took 80 all the way across to Washington then from there took the Oregon Outback down to 395 into California then through Reno into Carson City. The Outback and 395 were absolutely gorgeous! We took a lot of pictures going through there and very few other travelers were out and about so it was like we had the whole place to ourselves. And without any law enforcement in sight I was able cut about 30-40 minutes off our travel time!

Going home we took 50 up into Fernley then hopped onto 80 from there. If I had had more time I would have loved to meander around. I've never been to Yellowstone and I want to see the Grand Canyon, those are on my bucket list.

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Thanks for sharing your story NMJ! My ultrasound is Thursday and I'm soooo hoping they find something so this can be resolved. I'm the type who also doesn't usually need meds after minor surgeries, so good to know you did well without them. I have a desk job so I'm hoping I can return to work ASAP.
Keeping my fingers crossed they find tons of stones, wall thickening, sludge, etc...all so you can get this done as soon as possible!!!
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Keeping my fingers crossed they find tons of stones, wall thickening, sludge, etc...all so you can get this done as soon as possible!!!
Haha! Me too!!
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I took 80 all the way across to Washington then from there took the Oregon Outback down to 395 into California then through Reno into Carson City. The Outback and 395 were absolutely gorgeous! We took a lot of pictures going through there and very few other travelers were out and about so it was like we had the whole place to ourselves. And without any law enforcement in sight I was able cut about 30-40 minutes off our travel time!

Going home we took 50 up into Fernley then hopped onto 80 from there. If I had had more time I would have loved to meander around. I've never been to Yellowstone and I want to see the Grand Canyon, those are on my bucket list.
Ah, I-90?

Lots of good riding in that area of 395 South! That section between Pendleton through John Day to Burns is the best!

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A quick update from me....I have not wanted to be around TAM much lately so am taking a break (still on it) but just wanted to check in.

Even though I don't really have much to share!

I am not seeing anyone and had taken a break from the dating apps for a bit, but just this week turned them back on and now have 2 dates with 2 different guys lined up for this weekend. Both seem like good candidates for what I'm seeking but we never know until we get there, of course.

A week or two ago, my silver fox Paul Hollywood lookalike reached out to me and said he'd been thinking of me and missed me and yada yada yada. We had not had any contact since the day I broke it off so it was weird to hear from him out of the blue. Anyway, I quickly remembered all the reasons I do not want to see him again...but dang, I also quickly remembered how freaking hot and sexy he is and how great the sex was between us. I've never really been in this position before where someone who is not really interesting or intelligent enough to keep me around is ALSO so hot and sexy (and good at sex) that I feel drawn to them anyway. I remember it used to confuse me when I was younger and guy friends would keep going back to these women who they didn't even like or respect but the women were hot bimbos and so it was like the guys had no way to refuse them. I used to think the guys were idiots for behaving this way. But, I totally get it now. I'm so conflicted about my feelings with this guy but honestly if we are going to hang out together I will not be able to resist hooking up with him. So he was definitely angling for a hook up, but I was able to just put him off and be polite about it. However, I told him I may be willing to hang out in a few weeks once he gets back from a trip he's taking. I also may change my mind before then. I don't know, I'm so up and down on that guy. He's so hotttt!!!! And I just want to kiss him and have sex with him!!! As long as we just don't try to have much conversation. Ugh. Why does he have to be so freaking sexy and bomb me with it? lol

I haven't been with anyone since him either so part of my feelings are simply because I'm in the middle of a dry spell and he's my last good sexy memories.

So like I said, not much of an update...am looking forward to my 2 dates this weekend, looking forward to meeting these chaps in person. Both are sexy in their way and neither has been a cad at all while chatting on the dating site (is a good sign when they are sexy but not a cad). I don't normally line up 2 at once but that's just how this worked out this time.

I've been checking people's updates here but haven't signed in or posted for a while. I'll check back in after my dates.

Happy new year to all my lovely singletons!!
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A quick update from me....I have not wanted to be around TAM much lately so am taking a break (still on it) but just wanted to check in.

Even though I don't really have much to share!

I am not seeing anyone and had taken a break from the dating apps for a bit, but just this week turned them back on and now have 2 dates with 2 different guys lined up for this weekend. Both seem like good candidates for what I'm seeking but we never know until we get there, of course.

A week or two ago, my silver fox Paul Hollywood lookalike reached out to me and said he'd been thinking of me and missed me and yada yada yada. We had not had any contact since the day I broke it off so it was weird to hear from him out of the blue. Anyway, I quickly remembered all the reasons I do not want to see him again...but dang, I also quickly remembered how freaking hot and sexy he is and how great the sex was between us. I've never really been in this position before where someone who is not really interesting or intelligent enough to keep me around is ALSO so hot and sexy (and good at sex) that I feel drawn to them anyway. I remember it used to confuse me when I was younger and guy friends would keep going back to these women who they didn't even like or respect but the women were hot bimbos and so it was like the guys had no way to refuse them. I used to think the guys were idiots for behaving this way. But, I totally get it now. I'm so conflicted about my feelings with this guy but honestly if we are going to hang out together I will not be able to resist hooking up with him. So he was definitely angling for a hook up, but I was able to just put him off and be polite about it. However, I told him I may be willing to hang out in a few weeks once he gets back from a trip he's taking. I also may change my mind before then. I don't know, I'm so up and down on that guy. He's so hotttt!!!! And I just want to kiss him and have sex with him!!! As long as we just don't try to have much conversation. Ugh. Why does he have to be so freaking sexy and bomb me with it? lol

I haven't been with anyone since him either so part of my feelings are simply because I'm in the middle of a dry spell and he's my last good sexy memories.

So like I said, not much of an update...am looking forward to my 2 dates this weekend, looking forward to meeting these chaps in person. Both are sexy in their way and neither has been a cad at all while chatting on the dating site (is a good sign when they are sexy but not a cad). I don't normally line up 2 at once but that's just how this worked out this time.

I've been checking people's updates here but haven't signed in or posted for a while. I'll check back in after my dates.

Happy new year to all my lovely singletons!!


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