Similarly, men don't talk to their wife/girlfriend the same way they talk in lockers rooms when sharing about issues and asking for guidance sometimes. And all you men know it would hurt our feelings if we overheard some of the things you say. But you don't intend for us to hear it, and for that reason, IMO, its really none of our business. Same goes for women in general, and the wife in the OP's post specifically.
Love this post!
I want to mention, however, that in my 40+ years, I've spent 35 of them in locker rooms. At least twice a week, year round (yeah, I play a lot of sports).
Not once can I recall anybody ever talking about their wife (or when younger, their girlfriends) in a negative way, or really in any way that would share any kind of super
I realize that you don't necessarily mean a literal locker room, but I also can't recall ever hearing anything, ever, about anyone's wife or girlfriend that would constitute negativity towards them or their respective body parts. Believe it or not, that goes for ex wives, as well. The 'worst' I've ever heard is along the lines of 'this girl I used to date had huge t**s' and that sort of thing. But I genuinely can't recall any negative or ultra-personal comments made about anybody's current or past wife or girlfriend.
I don't know, but I'm kind of under the impression that (some) women certainly will discuss their husband/boyfriend's penis size with their best friend, or their sister or something, particularly if it's worthy of discussing (too small, or too big, for example). I've seen/heard it first-hand myself, on several occasions. Funny enough, it's usually done with hand gestures, but I digress...
I am sure there are men out there who have no tact in this area, but I have genuinely yet to come across one, and I'm in the prime areas in which these men supposedly talk about this sort of thing on a very regular basis.
I can take a guess as to why, as well. Here's how men think (particularly when we're in groups, like a team) - if Tom tells the guys that his ex gf had a cavernous vagina, 10 other guys will reply in unison "sure Tom, you just have a tiny penis!" and Tom won't hear the end of it for a while. Dudes rib each other over pretty much anything. So Tom will be reluctant to say something like that, as he knows full well what's coming next.