Re: Who should pay on dates?
My husband asked me to split the bill on our first date, and it really turned me off. I paid my half, but it left me feeling very deflated. I can't really explain why either - it's not about the money, it just felt like I was out with a friend and not on a date. He asked me for a second date and I simply said that I enjoyed myself but I thought we were too different, that I was more old fashioned than I realised when it comes to dating and that I was taken aback at being asked to split the bill.
He apologised profusely and asked for a chance to "redeem" (his words not mine) himself. I agreed to a second date, hehehe
He always pays when we go out, he likes it that way (I'm a SAHM now anyway) and has always led our relationship, I followed his lead and I liked (still do!) it that way. To this day, I always thank him for taking me out, and I genuinely mean it. It makes me feel very special when he takes me on a date, opens the doors, pulls out my chair - I lap it up, I love it
I did take him out for a fancy dinner when I sold my car (I had two). I insisted on paying - and then joked to him with a big grin that he had to have sex with me because I paid for his dinner, bahahahahaha
Did you ever ask him why he asked you to pay for half of the first date?
One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man