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post #61 of 83 (permalink) Old 04-30-2017, 05:50 PM
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Re: Girl I Am Compatible With is a 5...Worth it?

If you're not physically attracted, then it sounds like you're not really compatible.

Desire is one of the characteristics of compatibility.

IME, however, a girl that others would rate a 3-4 raises to a 7-8 for me, if we're compatible!
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I want to have a fling with her and see if this has long term potential, but not sure about how she's changed physically. Need to she if she wants to change.
Oh for Christ's sake.

Are you ever going to EVOLVE and stop thinking with your damned ****? You're almost 40 years old and you sound like some dumb-ass 22 year old.

So she's good enough to be a piece of ass for you, but not good enough to bring around your friends. Kinda like a Moped - fun to ride but you don't want your friends to see you on one. Got it.

How arrogant of you to think you're such a freakin' prize that she'd have to 'agree' to change for you, jumping around like a trained seal improving herself JUST for the privilege of being 'more' than a piece of ass for you. Only a pathetically desperate woman would do that. Maybe she's desperate enough, who knows?

And don't bother with your comments about me being a fatty and sticking up for overweight people because I weigh 106. I'm just pointing out the glaringly arrogant and immature things you've said.

But here's a thought - since you're such a Casanova with the ladies, why would you even bother wasting your time with this "5" when all the "8's" and "9's" are probably lined up outside your door, fighting each other off with sticks JUST to be first in line?
Appreciate the response. I challenge you to help me evolve, as you put it.

Sorry, IMO, if you don't have. A healthy sex life, there's no reason to have a LATE..

Never said I was God's gift to women. Far from it.
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My phone won't let me edit posts. LATE should be LTR.
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Got to agree with She'sStillGotIt here, dude. If you're such a player with all these amazing flings in the short 2 months you've been single, you'll have no problems finding a 25-30 year old 8-9 who you'll click with and deserves you.
Two flings is all. Never said it was a new gal weekly.
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Two flings is all. Never said it was a new gal weekly.
How do you define fling?
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Hey,
You were being honest calling it whatever the heck you want. You assigned a number; how else could you explain?

She's a 5, you're wanting more than a 5. It's simple, you keep looking. If she is a 10 on the personality and temperament, you might rethink her 5 on the looks.

Here's MY thinking, doesn't have to be yours. IF I found a woman that was a "10" on character, personality, temperament, intelligence; and she was a 5 on looks.................... I'd average that crap out to be a 7.5 and giver her 2 points for being a helluva catch and round it to a 10. A ten on what I mentioned------- geez. That's a freaking unicorn! I don't care if the unicorn's horn isn't quite as long as I hoped, or the fur the wrong color. It's a unicorn. And I'd want to make it my unicorn.

I guess what I've determined is that I am a score average-er, biased toward the character and personality/intelligence.

There isn't a dang thing wrong with you making the call that she's not attractive enough for you. It's YOUR life, why should you give a crap if someone calls you shallow, etc. They don't have to marry the "5", LOL.

Carry on. I'm not offended at all by your description. You're just trying to communicate. If someone wants to judge you harshly, let them. Who cares. It's an internet nobody, just like me.
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Two flings is all. Never said it was a new gal weekly.
How do you define fling?
Short period of time (anywhere from a weekend to a year), with a FWB situation, leaning more to the B than the F.

In my case, one was a weekend, the other a month.
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My personal standard is I won't date people I'm not attracted to, no matter what other good qualities they have. I can be friends with them, but it won't be a romantic relationship if there isn't attraction. Only you get to decide what her level of attractiveness is (physical beauty plus other characteristics) and see if they meet your standards. If not, then don't date her.
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I want to have a fling with her and see if this has long term potential, but not sure about how she's changed physically. Need to she if she wants to change.
Oh for Christ's sake.

Are you ever going to EVOLVE and stop thinking with your damned ****? You're almost 40 years old and you sound like some dumb-ass 22 year old.

So she's good enough to be a piece of ass for you, but not good enough to bring around your friends. Kinda like a Moped - fun to ride but you don't want your friends to see you on one. Got it.

How arrogant of you to think you're such a freakin' prize that she'd have to 'agree' to change for you, jumping around like a trained seal improving herself JUST for the privilege of being 'more' than a piece of ass for you. Only a pathetically desperate woman would do that. Maybe she's desperate enough, who knows?

And don't bother with your comments about me being a fatty and sticking up for overweight people because I weigh 106. I'm just pointing out the glaringly arrogant and immature things you've said.

But here's a thought - since you're such a Casanova with the ladies, why would you even bother wasting your time with this "5" when all the "8's" and "9's" are probably lined up outside your door, fighting each other off with sticks JUST to be first in line?
@She'sStillGotIt, Still waiting on your suggestions on how I can evolve and still have sex in my relationships after enduring a sexless marriage.

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As Evinrude said Things average out by overall comparison. If I may ask what number did you assign to your Ex-wife prior to marriage? And then after years of sexless marriage? Numbers change.

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Still waiting on your suggestions on how I can evolve and still have sex in my relationships after enduring a sexless marriage.
By fixing yourself first. I found a therapist was profoundly helpful. What's your alternative trial and error?

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Leave the poor girl alone and let her find someone that thinks she's a ten, she deserves better than someone who already is disappointed in her. It's truly OK if you don't find her attractive but that in no way means she's not attractive, only not attractive to you. Entering into a relationship with someone you don't appreciate is a recipe for disaster.
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As Evinrude said Things average out by overall comparison. If I may ask what number did you assign to your Ex-wife prior to marriage? And then after years of sexless marriage? Numbers change.
Numbers only refer to looks, IME. This forum is the first time that I've heard anyone assign #s to personality traits.
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By fixing yourself first. I found a therapist was profoundly helpful. What's your alternative trial and error?
I only did therapy when my ex announced she was leaving. And then only 3 sessions, as that was all that was covered by my insurance. How else does one find the right partner? Trial and error.
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