This is interesting to me because in my experience it seems a lot of men are hyper sensitive and think they are being “yelled” at, or that their significant other is being critical when in reality they are just being blunt and honest.
My dad and boyfriend do this all the time. My dad will be like your mother yelled at me for... x,y,z and my mom has never yelled in her life... she may have gotten upset but she didn’t yell. And the same thing for my boyfriend which is something we laugh about now Bc he said a couple times that I yelled at him which I never raised my voice ever... when I brought it up to him he was like yea your right you have never raised your voice at me now that I think about it. And there are times when he complains about his ex gf about how she yelled at him all the time and I had to stop him and be like did she really yell or was she just upset?
Everyone can be sensitive. I don't think I am more or less sensitive than anyone else.
My point is that, if you want to talk, make it a talk. Don't say snarky things, not that F does that, but sometimes it does happen.
I just believe that starting a talk out the right way is really important. Like, the standard, "is this a good time to talk about something?", or something along those lines.
And the other thing about yelling... Turns out that if you come from a "Loud" family in general, including actual yelling or just louder animated discussions... And your SO comes from a family that never ever raised their voice... Then to them, you are yelling.
I actually have a Loud booming voice, even for a guy. Comes from being a singer, a life long musician, and a certain amount of hearing loss. Bottom line is I am loud.
I don't know if that is anything like your situation but something to keep in mind...