I I m not sure if this is true but it seems to me men are taught to take an active role in sex, and making sure their partner is pleased. Whereas women are taught to take a passive role, like look pretty and be available for sex, but not so much to take an active role in pleasing their partner. Or even making it a personal responsibility to have an orgasm, and find out how we have orgasm, and then be active in doing that and telling their partner what to do.
It seems like men are trying to manage or figure out what makes their wife orgasm instead of the women taking a more active role in her own pleasure.
This to me has been observed to be true and from other sources, articles, talks, it is reinforced as a "truism" at least to me.
Up to points in some womens lives they start enjoying an active even aggressive role, certainly a full participant role
some women never ever make that turn, and continue to play the role of "I'm giving good sex just by letting him touch me all over and moving into a few positions, so I'm sure he's having a good time, while just laying there or moving into a position and staying there".
She thinks it's an honor for him to just to be able to touch her, so she's "doing her part, it's got to be great for him, just to get to see her naked is all she needs to do".
Then however it goes "is all his part, fault, responsibility" and if it's bad sex, "it's all him, I did my part by laying there".
And those women miss out greatly in having great physical relationships in an overall relationship.
I'm surely not saying men can't be horrible lovers, or even similar happenings, but @Girl_power
that was a great summary you gave.