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post #136 of 166 (permalink) Old 12-06-2019, 04:55 PM
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule

9 pages and the OP hasn't returned. Shouldn't this thread be closed? Seems like that's what happens to other threads in this situation.

Anyway, I haven't followed this thread too closely - too crude (emptying balls...really). But I was bored and wanted to see if I could contribute a view on emptying balls. Now I see it's turned into a full on fight. Balls too full?
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Satisfaction depends on attitude more than on what a person has or doesn't have. Some people would say that if they are getting enough sex and enough to eat they are fine, but once they have those things they realize that despite getting the amount of sex they want, they aren't getting it in exactly the way they want it. The same goes with food. Once they are no longer hungry they want more variety in their diet, so they want more steak and roasted rather than steamed vegetables or whatever. Once they get that, they become dissatisfied with the location and want to have sex on the beach and dinner overlooking Puget Sound. It goes on and on.
I am not saying that this is wrong, and I am sure that it does happen.

However, for me, if the sexual side of the relationship is off, then the relationship is off. It really is that simple.

Maybe I am older, maybe more experienced, maybe less tolerant of BS, maybe all that and more.

However, if sex is not up to its usual greatness, then we are talking about it. We are going to figure out what is wrong, and we are going to do it pretty quick.

I really cannot have a rewarding relationship, if the romantic/sexual/affectionate side is not working.

Not that you could not have other aspects go wrong, and those be issues as well. But if this area is a problem then pretty much THERE IS A PROBLEM.

And, it is not that it is the most important thing, but it is ONE of the most important things.

Example, if Fiancé did not like to cuddle when we sleep, (we hold each other most of the night) that would be an issue for me. Frankly, I think I might be able to deal with it if there was a good reason... But something would have to replace that part of intimacy.

Really, I am not saying that I could get by without that but I might try.

If sex was taking off of the table, and there was not a super good reason and super good accommodations made for that, the relationship is over.

Frankly, if I am in a relationship, and sex stopped, I am not sure I could continue even if she agreed to an open relationship. Because if I am in a relationship, I want to have sex with you. Otherwise, I might as well be single...
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I am not saying that this is wrong, and I am sure that it does happen.

However, for me, if the sexual side of the relationship is off, then the relationship is off. It really is that simple.

Maybe I am older, maybe more experienced, maybe less tolerant of BS, maybe all that and more.

However, if sex is not up to its usual greatness, then we are talking about it. We are going to figure out what is wrong, and we are going to do it pretty quick.

I really cannot have a rewarding relationship, if the romantic/sexual/affectionate side is not working.

Not that you could not have other aspects go wrong, and those be issues as well. But if this area is a problem then pretty much THERE IS A PROBLEM.

And, it is not that it is the most important thing, but it is ONE of the most important things.

Example, if Fiancé did not like to cuddle when we sleep, (we hold each other most of the night) that would be an issue for me. Frankly, I think I might be able to deal with it if there was a good reason... But something would have to replace that part of intimacy.

Really, I am not saying that I could get by without that but I might try.

If sex was taking off of the table, and there was not a super good reason and super good accommodations made for that, the relationship is over.

Frankly, if I am in a relationship, and sex stopped, I am not sure I could continue even if she agreed to an open relationship. Because if I am in a relationship, I want to have sex with you. Otherwise, I might as well be single...
I'm not saying that people should be satisfied with whatever they get and not mention their desires. I'm saying that people tend to be difficult to satisfy. Once people have something, they tend to want more. I know I'm this way about certain things. I'm not asking for sex on the beach, but we do go eat with a view of Puget Sound from time to time and I appreciate my husband being attentive to my desires, even when they aren't stagnant.


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I had a girlfriend who thought I just did not have a proper lunch and she would pack me one. I ate it on the train to work, had one or two cooked breakfasts at a greasy spoon mid-morning, then a large lunch.

When I was still hungry for dinners, she questioned whether I really was eating all the packed lunch.

It is a tough thing for many people to understand as they do not know that level of hunger.
Holy cow! Did you have a tapeworm? I have never known any young man to eat that much and I had two 17 year old nephews living with us. How tall were you and how much did you weigh? Did you have an overactive thyroid?

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Holy cow! Did you have a tapeworm? I have never known any young man to eat that much and I had two 17 year old nephews living with us. How tall were you and how much did you weigh? Did you have an overactive thyroid?
Just over 5'10" and about 140lb.

I finished an eating challenge once, which meant the food was free, but I had to pay for the three pots of tea I went through. I also got a free T-shirt that fitted. Apparently, the ones who finished the challenge were all skinnt.
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Holy cow! Did you have a tapeworm? I have never known any young man to eat that much and I had two 17 year old nephews living with us. How tall were you and how much did you weigh? Did you have an overactive thyroid?
Just over 5'10" and about 140lb.

I finished an eating challenge once, which meant the food was free, but I had to pay for the three pots of tea I went through. I also got a free T-shirt that fitted. Apparently, the ones who finished the challenge were all skinnt.
I have done a couple of those. Always a good time!
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Or the Christian way, pray for them...
or send positive thoughts. lol

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Say more please.

My tolerance for this stuff is gone.
When folks are attacked, they defend themselves with vigor. When they are approached by an authority have jurisdiction, they humble themselves, unless they really need to be in prison.

Using an organization to bring the attention of the club owners to a real problem will likely change admittance qualifications and cause them to change how they do business. Otherwise, they may just say it was a scuffle between some drunkards, whether anyone was or not.

I was going for the greatest possibility of real change at the club. When that attention happens, everyone who attends takes notice and does some introspection, unless they really have an issue they cannot change on their own.

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You completely and totally miss the point.

Ever see your child pretend to laugh along at a racist joke against her ancestry because people assumed she was white? I have. Do you think that made her stronger? No, I think it made her feel vulnerable, judged, and afraid. Do you think she thought that guy was strong and just laughing? No, she thought he was a racist ******* but she was afraid to speak up. So I spoke up for her. He said exactly what you are saying - "I was just joking" and "you shouldn't be so fragile." He kept making jokes, laughing at my daughter, now in tears.
Good for you and her, sounds like you're raising your daughter right. Not sure why you think I would approve of anyone doing that or saying that to a child. Also thought the references to being beat bloody were weird...but I digress. There is a balance and a time and a place for everything. I won't expand on it anymore than that. We're in two different universes if you think I feel its appropriate to do that to a child. I don't. I also don't think its appropriate to poke fun when someone says they are offended or hurt by it. Who jokes that way with strangers??? That was never appropriate, even before all this PC nonsense started.
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i would ask for a cleanup of this thread, if it weren't so far gone. Don't want to put Ele through all of that 7 page hijack.

Will some of you guys please have a meal and get laid?

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i would ask for a cleanup of this thread, if it weren't so far gone. Don't want to put Ele through all of that 7 page hijack.

Will some of you guys please have a meal and get laid?
Even when there's productive discussion related to the OP's topic, if the OP doesn't return to the thread, it seems that it's normally closed for some reason. Not sure if that's some kind of rule??? It doesn't even have to be hijacked or go off the rails like this one has.
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Even when there's productive discussion related to the OP's topic, if the OP doesn't return to the thread, it seems that it's normally closed for some reason. Not sure if that's some kind of rule??? It doesn't even have to be hijacked or go off the rails like this one has.
It's a bit of a sticky wicket. The thread was started by a moderator and another moderator participated in the threadjack.

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Even when there's productive discussion related to the OP's topic, if the OP doesn't return to the thread, it seems that it's normally closed for some reason. Not sure if that's some kind of rule??? It doesn't even have to be hijacked or go off the rails like this one has.
The OP started a thread asking the question "What say you?" about a statement.

As long as there are people taking part, it will remain open.

The thread jack was surprising to me and I got in on it because I'm appalled by fascism.
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9 pages and the OP hasn't returned. Shouldn't this thread be closed? Seems like that's what happens to other threads in this situation.

Anyway, I haven't followed this thread too closely - too crude (emptying balls...really). But I was bored and wanted to see if I could contribute a view on emptying balls. Now I see it's turned into a full on fight. Balls too full?
I started this post in the men's lounge. You are of course welcome to post but there is nothing you could contribute that would be pertinent to the original post as I asked for TAM Men's Opinions.

If you feel boredom, start a thread on a topic you would like to discuss.
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@Lila,

Will you comment on this thread? I didn't read the last few pages. I left it for some time due to the club thing and the disgusting way @Marduk's daughter was treated.

What do you think now that you've seen all the different ways folks are taking this "Belly Full, Balls Empty" saying?

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