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post #151 of 166 (permalink) Old 12-08-2019, 10:24 AM
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule

To address the original post, I think it takes more than being fed and having sex to please a man, but I believe that idea comes from the thought that maybe our needs don't often seem as extensive and mysterious; I say mysterious because we often feel like we have to be mind-readers. There have even been comedians do routines about it. Sure, there have to be other things, but perhaps those things are common desires that people would want from any relationship such as kindness. Sure, no man is going to be happy with a wife that is rude, keeps them in a financial crisis all the time, and spends her days sitting on the sofa watching tv contributing nothing to the relationship; sex and meals aren't going to smooth that over for a lifetime; however, let's say we love our wife, she is a great mother, she pulls her weight, and she is a sweet, normal person. Beyond that, having sex goes a long way to please a man. From all the men I know, their wife doesn't have to jump through a lot of other hoops to please them.

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@BigbadBootyDaddy posted on another thread that 90 % of men only need their partners to keep their belly's full and their balls to be empty to be content in the relationship. The 10% outliers are insignificant.

What say you men of TAM? Are you within the 90% who only care about sec and food, or the 10% who need "more" to be happy in a relationship?
Although it's a cute phrase, I don't think that's literally true. But I believe that most men won't end a relationship as long as the woman is doing her duties and not doing anything terribly wrong. If they're not in love, though, he's probably a lot more likely to cheat which could end the relationship.

A guy on the radio used to say he had advice for women, that there are eight words that can save any relationship: long hair, stay thin, sex anytime, shut up. Of course, he was a shock jock, so....
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Mrs. C isn't happy unless her belly is full in more than one way.

She needs more in a relationship as well but gets a little biatchy if she doesn't have regular helpings of my cooking and loving.

I've run across many women with the same needs.

I think men might have had things a little more out front with the boldness of statements like the OP.

Women have the same desires but maybe haven't felt as free, in the past, to be bold about it.

I'm off point a little from the OP but I think the statement "Belly full, ***** full" could be just as applicable to relationships as the OP.

I've at least seen a large amount of sexually frustrated women out there who could use a good feeding and ****ing.

Sorry for the crude expressions but the OP was crude to begin with.
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Mrs. C isn't happy unless her belly is full in more than one way.

She needs more in a relationship as well but gets a little biatchy if she doesn't have regular helpings of my cooking and loving.

I've run across many women with the same needs.

I think men might have had things a little more out front with the boldness of statements like the OP.

Women have the same desires but maybe haven't felt as free, in the past, to be bold about it.

I'm off point a little from the OP but I think the statement "Belly full, ***** full" could be just as applicable to relationships as the OP.

I've at least seen a large amount of sexually frustrated women out there who could use a good feeding and ****ing.

Sorry for the crude expressions but the OP was crude to begin with.
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Will you comment on this thread?

What do you think now that you've seen all the different ways folks are taking this "Belly Full, Balls Empty" saying?
I think it's interesting all of the responses.

Personally, I think the saying correlates pretty well with emotional intelligence. On one end of the spectrum is the guy who thinks of his wife as a masturbatory tool who feeds him and the other extreme is the guy who needs to be completely connected in every way with his partner to be satisfied. One is very low on the emotional intelligence scale while the other is very high.
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I think it's interesting all of the responses.

Personally, I think the saying correlates pretty well with emotional intelligence. On one end of the spectrum is the guy who thinks of his wife as a masturbatory tool who feeds him and the other extreme is the guy who needs to be completely connected in every way with his partner to be satisfied. One is very low on the emotional intelligence scale while the other is very high.
My wife will claim that guy (the bolded part) is me as a defensive mechanism. I think some woman don't want to see their husbands differently because it requires them (the wife) to have to take on more responsibility for the emotional side of a relationship than they want to.
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I think it's interesting all of the responses.

Personally, I think the saying correlates pretty well with emotional intelligence. On one end of the spectrum is the guy who thinks of his wife as a masturbatory tool who feeds him and the other extreme is the guy who needs to be completely connected in every way with his partner to be satisfied. One is very low on the emotional intelligence scale while the other is very high.
My wife will claim that guy (the bolded part) is me as a defensive mechanism. I think some woman don't want to see their husbands differently because it requires them (the wife) to have to take on more responsibility for the emotional side of a relationship than they want to.
I think there has to be a balance. I, for one, could never feel safe or trust someone whose only needs are to be ****ed and fed. On the other hand I could not be with someone who needed to be connected to me in every way at all times. I need space.

There's a balance between a knuckle dragging neanderthal and "Elliot" from Bedazzled.
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I think there has to be a balance. I, for one, could never feel safe or trust someone whose only needs are to be ****ed and fed. On the other hand I could not be with someone who needed to be connected to me in every way at all times. I need space.

There's a balance between a knuckle dragging neanderthal and "Elliot" from Bedazzled.
My point is that it's dangerous to take, at face value, someone saying their husband only wants to be f'd and fed. My wife could possibly have a legit beef with differences in the prioritization each of us places on sex, but it's beyond question that her belief that the feeding aspect is not nearly as important in our relationship as she wants so desperately to believe. I think the topic of this thread is an example of taking something to an absurd extreme that obscures the truth. That truth being that may be a HUGE disconnect in what each thinks the value is, to the other party, of some of the things they offer their partner.
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My point is that it's dangerous to take, at face value, someone saying their husband only wants to be f'd and fed. My wife could possibly have a legit beef with differences in the prioritization each of us places on sex, but it's beyond question that her belief that the feeding aspect is not nearly as important in our relationship as she wants so desperately to believe. I think the topic of this thread is an example of taking something to an absurd extreme that obscures the truth. That truth being that may be a HUGE disconnect in what each thinks the value is, to the other party, of some of the things they offer their partner.
The bolded is EXACTLY why I posted this in the Men's Lounge and asked for TAM Men's opinions. The original "belly full, balls empty" comment was mad by a MAN on another thread. I was interested in getting the opinion of other MEN.
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The bolded is EXACTLY why I posted this in the Men's Lounge and asked for TAM Men's opinions. The original "belly full, balls empty" comment was mad by a MAN on another thread. I was interested in getting the opinion of other MEN.
Cleary, as has been described graphically in other threads, we both metaphorically and physically come in all flavors, shapes & sizes. I think people have taken the "Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars" thing way too far, using it as an excuse to not have to actually learn what makes their partner tick, on an individual basis. There isn't a separate "5 languages" for men & women. Yet we will persist in thinking we believe we know our partner, sometimes for many decades, through extrapolation of a "generic" understanding of them. Some of us anyway. It is shocking how, sometimes, a couple can be married for many decades and still each doesn't truly understand what the other values in the relationship, and, especially, why.

I'm not arguing with you. I think we're both in agreement on this. Just want to bring it more out in the open, this idea that we sometimes, either deliberately or without thinking about it, obscure the truth behind generalizations. Pretty sure that's the secret to selling self-help books. Make it easier for people to believe those generalizations.
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The bolded is EXACTLY why I posted this in the Men's Lounge and asked for TAM Men's opinions. The original "belly full, balls empty" comment was mad by a MAN on another thread. I was interested in getting the opinion of other MEN.
It's like a bumper sticker political slogan. It conveys an important point but it's way too simplistic to take literally.
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When folks are attacked, they defend themselves with vigor. When they are approached by an authority have jurisdiction, they humble themselves, unless they really need to be in prison.

Using an organization to bring the attention of the club owners to a real problem will likely change admittance qualifications and cause them to change how they do business. Otherwise, they may just say it was a scuffle between some drunkards, whether anyone was or not.

I was going for the greatest possibility of real change at the club. When that attention happens, everyone who attends takes notice and does some introspection, unless they really have an issue they cannot change on their own.
Let me give you another experience. This happened right after my wife was assaulted, but was before her friends turned their back on her.

We were with some of them at a concert. Of all things, a Tragically Hip concert. It was general seating, and I was standing there, and some guy kept trying to nudge me out of the way so he could see. I simply refused to move. He finally tried to grab me and move me out of the way.

This annoyed me but didn't anger me like the guys I was talking about above. I simply allowed him to grab my arm by the wrist, and instead of moving, dropped my center while fixing my arm in place, securing it against his chest - where he had put it.

He fell to his knees.

His friends came by, apologized for him, and he apologized too. Apparently he was a die hard hip fan, and this was his last chance to see them. He had been standing in that spot but had to leave to go to the bathroom, and when he came back I was standing there.

He bought me a drink, we shared the spot, and ended up drinking together for the remainder of the show.

That stuff didn't anger me at all. It was just a natural result of his action, I just felt like I was the pivot point around which he revolved to resolve his frustration. But the other guys I had to actually restrain myself from going further, because I was angry. I walked away to protect them from my anger.
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First, never received a warning.

Two, one of the reasons for the ban was TJing

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Three, you banned me for being offended by something I said. Sounds like a personal reason, hence different rules for different members
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It's like a bumper sticker political slogan. It conveys an important point but it's way too simplistic to take literally.
The danger is, of course, that some people try to live by bumper sticker slogans, tweets, or other glib sentiments.
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The danger is, of course, that some people try to live by bumper sticker slogans, tweets, or other glib sentiments.
lol

Have folks raised a whole generation of naivety?

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