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post #31 of 166 (permalink) Old 12-03-2019, 05:19 AM
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There is just as much credence,and probably more,to me saying that the 'belly's full/balls empty' men are the real outliers.
Thank you for this.

My husband conforms to this mindset too.

I've asked him several times (in several different ways) what gives him his greatest sense of pride/achievement... what the best aspects of his life are - "Coming back from work to hear you laughing with the kids." Always. Unanimously.

His answer has never been "having a beautiful wife who's happy to have sex with me, and who cooks a tasty variety of food."
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I think that this statement demeans men frankly.
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I am a simple man....thats all I need. Conversation is obvious to me, but those two things are 1 and 1a
Are you a good cook? A lot of women (ok, most) go absolutely nuts over a guy who can put a meal on the table. Then, it's 'belly full, ***** galore'.

I could give up chocolate but I'm not a quitter.
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Are you a good cook? A lot of women (ok, most) go absolutely nuts over a guy who can put a meal on the table. Then, it's 'belly full, ***** galore'.
I'm a very good cook... didn't work for me... ok, you said "most" women...
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10%

However, that is an old saying that was never meant to be completely true. It was meant as a smart ass remark to someone who was clueless. Sadly, too many of those resurface without context and folks think they are like gospel.
I agree that many people here are taking it far too literally.

Call me old fashioned but I like to take care of my man!
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The statement is just comparing men to dog and how all they care about is food and sex. Not really some life philosophy. Same with happy wife, happy life. That is nothing more than telling men to just shut up and do what ever their wife tells them to do. Hardly flattering for either men or women. Both are recipes for terribly dysfunctional and likely miserable relationships.

Granted, food, sex, and a happy partner are crucial to a happy marriage, and may actually be the most important things to most people, they are hardly the only things, and without those other things, the relationship is likely to be a miserable failure for both people.

"Let's never stop having sex. We're so good at it, we OWE it to sex to never stop having it."
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I agree that many people here are taking it far too literally.

Call me old fashioned but I like to take care of my man!
My knees buckled and I'm sitting! How does that happen? lol Seriously, that's how it should be from both sides. He's got to take care of you, as well.
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She wasn't bashing men. She was making an observation about men who only need sex and food from their partner.
You know what, please give us all a break.

That is exactly what she was saying.
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My knees buckled and I'm sitting! How does that happen? lol Seriously, that's how it should be from both sides. He's got to take care of you, as well.
What do you mean that your knees buckled? Was it something I said?

I certainly didn't mean that I didn't want to be taken care of too. Taking care of someone does not imply that you don't want to be taken care of.
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What do you mean that your knees buckled? Was it something I said?

I certainly didn't mean that I didn't want to be taken care of too. Taking care of someone does not imply that you don't want to be taken care of.
haha

No, I knew that.

I'll ask you. Was it something I said?
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I think that this statement demeans men frankly.
And women. Everyone, really.
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@BigbadBootyDaddy posted on another thread that 90 % of men only need their partners to keep their belly's full and their balls to be empty to be content in the relationship. The 10% outliers are insignificant.

What say you men of TAM? Are you within the 90% who only care about sec and food, or the 10% who need "more" to be happy in a relationship?
I am not a man, however women would do well to avoid any man who believes the above bolded statement. Men who have this philosophy are highly likely to be lazy/selfish in relationships, expecting their women to carry full responsibility for the state of the relationship. They are not partner-material, more like the very definition of a man-child.
Oh, please. Some people prefer old fashion gender roles. If a man goes out and kills dinner, its only fair the other person prepares it. If roles are reversed then maybe that no longer makes sense.

When my woman takes care of me with a homecooked meal and takes care of me in the bedroom (even if she isn't much in the mood) then I appreciate and want to return the favor in ways she appreciates. If she doesn't, I likely will resent her and lose interest in doing much of anything for her. We can all take care of those needs ourselves but thats not why I married. I have things I do in marriage for her/us and things she does for me/us too and yes I expect sex to have a fulfilling marriage.

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I am not a man, however women would do well to avoid any man who believes the above bolded statement. Men who have this philosophy are highly likely to be lazy/selfish in relationships, expecting their women to carry full responsibility for the state of the relationship. They are not partner-material, more like the very definition of a man-child.
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Agreed. When discussions devolve to bashing men or bashing women (which seems to happen alot) nothing get communicated
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You know what, please give us all a break.

That is exactly what she was saying.
Just to clarify Blues, Red specifically talked about men who were so simplistic that as long as they had sex and food all the time they didn't care about anything else and how they probably would best be avoided as mates.

Numb said she was bashing men (generalized statement) which was extremely inaccurate and I aimed my statement at his inaccurate representation of Red's post.

What are you saying?
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Agree. It like saying that all women want is a man with a steady paycheck who can unclog a toilet.


People are complicated and different people want different things.



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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule

Have we all lost our sense of humor?

Are we so much like putty that anyone can cause us to have a fit over anything?

Do we believe others are so ignorant and weak that they will be unable to realize statements like that are intended as humor and not the law?

This thread scares me. It's frightening to realize how fragile our culture is.
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