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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
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What say you men of TAM? Are you within the 90% who only care about sec and food, or the 10% who need "more" to be happy in a relationship?
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Agree. It like saying that all women want is a man with a steady paycheck who can unclog a toilet.
People are complicated and different people want different things.
People are complicated and different people want different things.
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
I am saying that I don't read her statement that granular. To me, it feels/reads almost like a "most men post".
That is the tone that I read it with. And I have seen some women take posts from men with the same tone as an "most women post".
So I believe in equal rights and responsibilities.
If you don't read it that way, it is your right, but that is how I see it, as is my right.
I am cool with disagreeing. I have never actually met a man that is that simplistic IRL though. And even though I am slightly more evolved, a piece of my mind does actually feel that way a little.
I will say that, if I am "being drained" so to speak, I am more tolerant of what I would call BS, so maybe I am that simplistic...
That is the tone that I read it with. And I have seen some women take posts from men with the same tone as an "most women post".
So I believe in equal rights and responsibilities.
If you don't read it that way, it is your right, but that is how I see it, as is my right.
I am cool with disagreeing. I have never actually met a man that is that simplistic IRL though. And even though I am slightly more evolved, a piece of my mind does actually feel that way a little.
I will say that, if I am "being drained" so to speak, I am more tolerant of what I would call BS, so maybe I am that simplistic...
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
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Thank you for this.
My husband conforms to this mindset too.
I've asked him several times (in several different ways) what gives him his greatest sense of pride/achievement... what the best aspects of his life are - "Coming back from work to hear you laughing with the kids." Always. Unanimously.
His answer has never been "having a beautiful wife who's happy to have sex with me, and who cooks a tasty variety of food."
My husband conforms to this mindset too.
I've asked him several times (in several different ways) what gives him his greatest sense of pride/achievement... what the best aspects of his life are - "Coming back from work to hear you laughing with the kids." Always. Unanimously.
His answer has never been "having a beautiful wife who's happy to have sex with me, and who cooks a tasty variety of food."
the original premise of this thread Belly full balls empty, completely ignores fishing and golf, so it can't even be a good stereotype.
I've sadly found that I need more than sex and food.
But, it has be mentioned quite a bit, by folks of both genders, that good and plenty sex covers a lot of other failings. I believe that that can often be true.
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
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Have we all lost our sense of humor?
Are we so much like putty that anyone can cause us to have a fit over anything?
Do we believe others are so ignorant and weak that they will be unable to realize statements like that are intended as humor and not the law?
This thread scares me. It's frightening to realize how fragile our culture is.
Are we so much like putty that anyone can cause us to have a fit over anything?
Do we believe others are so ignorant and weak that they will be unable to realize statements like that are intended as humor and not the law?
This thread scares me. It's frightening to realize how fragile our culture is.
I’m not crying in a corner by being offended. I’m pointing out the flaws in the thinking that I find offensive.
I’ve been called many things. Fragile is not one of them.
You can of course, test this at your convenience.
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
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I would urge you to check your own fragility.
I’m not crying in a corner by being offended. I’m pointing out the flaws in the thinking that I find offensive.
I’ve been called many things. Fragile is not one of them.
You can of course, test this at your convenience.
I’m not crying in a corner by being offended. I’m pointing out the flaws in the thinking that I find offensive.
I’ve been called many things. Fragile is not one of them.
You can of course, test this at your convenience.
I'm sure your convictions will be tested. I won't have to do it myself.
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
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Cool your jets. I was agreeing with you. The post you quoted and replied to was just a comment on the culture today.
I'm sure your convictions will be tested. I won't have to do it myself.
I'm sure your convictions will be tested. I won't have to do it myself.
“I was just joking” and “you’re so fragile” are commonly used by those that aren’t joking, and are the ones who’s fragility is actually being tested.
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
I am going to go with a yes answer. Without these there is little point in all the effort that goes into the bunch of other "meaningful" stuff. And no - I'm not going to do a bunch of that to "earn" these 2 basic ones. I'm pretty simple - I really just desire one of them - I can feed myself. Meet that one want/need and I'll make a lot of effort for you.
I know it's unpopular but sex is my only "need" and desire from a woman. Emotional support and all that is nice but it is not a need for me. I am fine and like myself - I don't need verification I'm Ok/nice/special/have my back/whatever. That doesn't mean I'll put up with a bunch of **** just for the sex. Yes I'm old and tainted.
I know it's unpopular but sex is my only "need" and desire from a woman. Emotional support and all that is nice but it is not a need for me. I am fine and like myself - I don't need verification I'm Ok/nice/special/have my back/whatever. That doesn't mean I'll put up with a bunch of **** just for the sex. Yes I'm old and tainted.
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
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I am not a man, however women would do well to avoid any man who believes the above bolded statement. Men who have this philosophy are highly likely to be lazy/selfish in relationships, expecting their women to carry full responsibility for the state of the relationship. They are not partner-material, more like the very definition of a man-child.
I could give up chocolate but I'm not a quitter.
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I am going to go with a yes answer. Without these there is little point in all the effort that goes into the bunch of other "meaningful" stuff. And no - I'm not going to do a bunch of that to "earn" these 2 basic ones. I'm pretty simple - I really just desire one of them - I can feed myself. Meet that one want/need and I'll make a lot of effort for you.
I know it's unpopular but sex is my only "need" and desire from a woman. Emotional support and all that is nice but it is not a need for me. I am fine and like myself - I don't need verification I'm Ok/nice/special/have my back/whatever. That doesn't mean I'll put up with a bunch of **** just for the sex. Yes I'm old and tainted. <a href="https://talkaboutmarriage.com/images/smilies/wink.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Wink" >:-)</a>
I know it's unpopular but sex is my only "need" and desire from a woman. Emotional support and all that is nice but it is not a need for me. I am fine and like myself - I don't need verification I'm Ok/nice/special/have my back/whatever. That doesn't mean I'll put up with a bunch of **** just for the sex. Yes I'm old and tainted. <a href="https://talkaboutmarriage.com/images/smilies/wink.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Wink" >:-)</a>
But it is nice to have a warm body at night and someone who cares enough to make my wants important to them. If it wasn't for those ingredients, it simply wouldn't be worth the effort.
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
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Have we all lost our sense of humor?
Are we so much like putty that anyone can cause us to have a fit over anything?
Do we believe others are so ignorant and weak that they will be unable to realize statements like that are intended as humor and not the law?
This thread scares me. It's frightening to realize how fragile our culture is.
Are we so much like putty that anyone can cause us to have a fit over anything?
Do we believe others are so ignorant and weak that they will be unable to realize statements like that are intended as humor and not the law?
This thread scares me. It's frightening to realize how fragile our culture is.
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
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@BigbadBootyDaddy posted on another thread that 90 % of men only need their partners to keep their belly's full and their balls to be empty to be content in the relationship. The 10% outliers are insignificant.
What say you men of TAM? Are you within the 90% who only care about sec and food, or the 10% who need "more" to be happy in a relationship?
What say you men of TAM? Are you within the 90% who only care about sec and food, or the 10% who need "more" to be happy in a relationship?
This kind of illustrates the point of the 5 Love Languages, because what I value isn't necessarily what she values. What the 5 Love Languages does a poor job at is explaining how to deal with the rejection that comes from your wife not responding the way the book says she should. What then?
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
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@BigbadBootyDaddy posted on another thread that 90 % of men only need their partners to keep their belly's full and their balls to be empty to be content in the relationship. The 10% outliers are insignificant.
What say you men of TAM? Are you within the 90% who only care about sec and food, or the 10% who need "more" to be happy in a relationship?
What say you men of TAM? Are you within the 90% who only care about sec and food, or the 10% who need "more" to be happy in a relationship?
So maybe the above is necessary, but not sufficient.
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
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Oh, please. Some people prefer old fashion gender roles. If a man goes out and kills dinner, its only fair the other person prepares it. If roles are reversed then maybe that no longer makes sense.
When my woman takes care of me with a homecooked meal and takes care of me in the bedroom (even if she isn't much in the mood) then I appreciate and want to return the favor in ways she appreciates. If she doesn't, I likely will resent her and lose interest in doing much of anything for her. We can all take care of those needs ourselves but thats not why I married. I have things I do in marriage for her/us and things she does for me/us too and yes I expect sex to have a fulfilling marriage.
When my woman takes care of me with a homecooked meal and takes care of me in the bedroom (even if she isn't much in the mood) then I appreciate and want to return the favor in ways she appreciates. If she doesn't, I likely will resent her and lose interest in doing much of anything for her. We can all take care of those needs ourselves but thats not why I married. I have things I do in marriage for her/us and things she does for me/us too and yes I expect sex to have a fulfilling marriage.
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Re: Belly Full, Empty Balls Rule
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Just to clarify Blues, Red specifically talked about men who were so simplistic that as long as they had sex and food all the time they didn't care about anything else and how they probably would best be avoided as mates.
Numb said she was bashing men (generalized statement) which was extremely inaccurate and I aimed my statement at his inaccurate representation of Red's post.
What are you saying?
Numb said she was bashing men (generalized statement) which was extremely inaccurate and I aimed my statement at his inaccurate representation of Red's post.
What are you saying?
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