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Men of TAM...you're single and wanting to meet the woman of your dreams. (Play along) You begin dating and before too long you think you've met her. In your happiest scenario (fantasy) how does it play out? What does she do that causes you to fall head over heels? Are there any very specific things you see this woman doing that you know would make you melt?

I'm not talking about how she looks or education level or financial status. I'm talking about connecting with another human being. What does she need to do to connect with you on an intimate level? Sexual content is welcome but I'm looking for input that goes deeper than that. What really touches you?
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Easy going personality......many common interests..........a bit of doting is always nice............doesn't want or need to get married.........self sufficient......my needs are not that complicated.........I honestly don't think that there is such a thing as "the one." There are many people who could float my boat. In fact, I think I actually would prefer it that way.......

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Thanks Betrayedone-

I didn't mean the ONE, just someone who's right for you. You mention doting, that's the kind of info I'm looking for. So, just little things that make you feel special? Compliments, smiles upon meeting, that type of thing?
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No games. Letís things go without bearing grudges.

When someone says itís not the money itís the principle,itís always the money.

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Easy going personality......many common interests..........a bit of doting is always nice............doesn't want or need to get married.........self sufficient......my needs are not that complicated.........I honestly don't think that there is such a thing as "the one." There are many people who could float my boat. In fact, I think I actually would prefer it that way.......
And she also has many men in the same position in her life?


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Makes me feel that I’m her priority when I’m with her. Puts away her phone for a few hours. Makes eye contact. Asks questions. Is not phony, stuck up or high maintenance. Cares about physical intimacy and sexual pleasure that’s mutual. Doesn’t put on an act in the beginning that tails off as she gets comfortable. Is not afraid to pick up the check once in a while. Has a strong family, but not a dominating one.
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At a "chemistry" level: I"m happy when we are together. Things just sort of naturally click - we are interested in the same things, laugh at the same things. Flirting and physical touch just seem to work without awkwardness.

At a logical level: We want compatible things out of life: Jobs, family, etc.

A bit further along, need to be on the same page WRT children.
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My guy says he likes the fact that we laugh a lot and can chat about a number of common nerdy interests.

I'm sure the outstanding chemistry helps.....

Interestingly, I recently met one of his out of town family members and said family member remarked that I probably had to push to get my guy to talk because according to said family member my guy is quiet.

I replied that no, he talks plenty with me and I dont have to pull anything out of him. Family member remarked that he must be comfortable with me because he's always been quiet.

Ironically I too am very quiet unless I'm comfortable with you and have something to say.
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Intelligent, sense of humour, sharing the same political views and principles, similar taste in music (if at all possible), affectionate, friendly, open and communicative... nice smile...
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I didn't mean the ONE, just someone who's right for you. You mention doting, that's the kind of info I'm looking for. So, just little things that make you feel special? Compliments, smiles upon meeting, that type of thing?
Exactly.....I never had any of that in my 24 year marriage. Now I get it all the time and it's very noticeable.
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And she also has many men in the same position in her life?
No, I would expect them to use all of the positions..........
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