Just sharing my limited experience and point of view hoping it will help some men.
I am HD, I consider myself a “disgusting pervert” but I am not very kinky. I have had 3 sexual partners.
The first was my exH. And he was a “disgusting pervert” like me. He made me feel like he was obsessed with me. He would kiss my feet, and loved going down on me and licking my butt. I can tell he loved it, not necessarily because I liked it and that’s an important point. If I texted him I’m horny he would be like wait for me!! And rush home. We had phone sex when we were apart. I felt sexually very comfortable with him.
My next partner was after the divorce and I was more self conscious. Let’s call him mark. Mark was also a disgusting pervert like me. He loved sex, and anal, and oral, and he had a fetish for cream pies. He made me feel very sexually comfortable, like I didn’t have to be perfect and he still made me feel like I was a supermodel/porn star. We would Snapchat and masterbate together when we were apart. He loved a straight view of my vagina, and me masterbating. I don’t think most men like to see the vagina that up close, they would rather see the whole picture or boobs or whatever. He also wanted me to do things I didn’t want to do like finger my ass, but the fact that he wanted me to do that was a turn on for me.
My last partner was not a disgusting pervert, he was normal and like normal sex and watched normal porn. Let’s call him Tom. Tom and I got along great outside of the bedroom. Sex was good, he lasted a long time and usually always made me orgasm. But he was missing that oomph. He told me he liked going down on me, but I could tell he didn’t. I can tell by the way he did it, how often he did it etc. I can tell that he did it because he knew I liked it and not because he loved it. He did not make me feel sexually comfortable because I felt like I was a bigger “freak” then him, but also I can tell he wasn’t obsessed with my body like my other partners were. He made me feel like I had to look my best all the time. One time while we were in bed he drew my attention to my inner thigh because I guess I forgot to shave there or something. It pissed me off. He liked me to wear nice underwear, preferably matching (which I never did). He made me feel like I had to dress up for him in order for him to want to have sex with me. I was not sexually open to him or comfortable with him. Even though he would SAY he wanted me to be, and he would SAY all the right things.
My point is that, it was day and night between my first 2 partners and my third. And Tom and j had good sex, and occasionally anal sex, but we never had great sex. He was inhibited, and self conscious and too in his head, and he did things bc he wanted me to enjoy them but I can tell he didn’t really enjoy them. While the others just enjoyed themselves If that makes sense.
I don’t know if this was helpful or not haha.
I am HD, I consider myself a “disgusting pervert” but I am not very kinky. I have had 3 sexual partners.
The first was my exH. And he was a “disgusting pervert” like me. He made me feel like he was obsessed with me. He would kiss my feet, and loved going down on me and licking my butt. I can tell he loved it, not necessarily because I liked it and that’s an important point. If I texted him I’m horny he would be like wait for me!! And rush home. We had phone sex when we were apart. I felt sexually very comfortable with him.
My next partner was after the divorce and I was more self conscious. Let’s call him mark. Mark was also a disgusting pervert like me. He loved sex, and anal, and oral, and he had a fetish for cream pies. He made me feel very sexually comfortable, like I didn’t have to be perfect and he still made me feel like I was a supermodel/porn star. We would Snapchat and masterbate together when we were apart. He loved a straight view of my vagina, and me masterbating. I don’t think most men like to see the vagina that up close, they would rather see the whole picture or boobs or whatever. He also wanted me to do things I didn’t want to do like finger my ass, but the fact that he wanted me to do that was a turn on for me.
My last partner was not a disgusting pervert, he was normal and like normal sex and watched normal porn. Let’s call him Tom. Tom and I got along great outside of the bedroom. Sex was good, he lasted a long time and usually always made me orgasm. But he was missing that oomph. He told me he liked going down on me, but I could tell he didn’t. I can tell by the way he did it, how often he did it etc. I can tell that he did it because he knew I liked it and not because he loved it. He did not make me feel sexually comfortable because I felt like I was a bigger “freak” then him, but also I can tell he wasn’t obsessed with my body like my other partners were. He made me feel like I had to look my best all the time. One time while we were in bed he drew my attention to my inner thigh because I guess I forgot to shave there or something. It pissed me off. He liked me to wear nice underwear, preferably matching (which I never did). He made me feel like I had to dress up for him in order for him to want to have sex with me. I was not sexually open to him or comfortable with him. Even though he would SAY he wanted me to be, and he would SAY all the right things.
My point is that, it was day and night between my first 2 partners and my third. And Tom and j had good sex, and occasionally anal sex, but we never had great sex. He was inhibited, and self conscious and too in his head, and he did things bc he wanted me to enjoy them but I can tell he didn’t really enjoy them. While the others just enjoyed themselves If that makes sense.
I don’t know if this was helpful or not haha.